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John_and_Lori

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Has anyone heard of 2Wives.com? We were thinking of joining that site. But we wanted to see if anyone had any pros or cons before we did? Please let us know if anyone has.
 
They have been around for a while. From the few folks that I know that have used it, I have not heard of any success stories.
 
John_and_Lori said:
Has anyone heard of 2Wives.com? We were thinking of joining that site. But we wanted to see if anyone had any pros or cons before we did? Please let us know if anyone has.
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Do not use them, I heard nothing but bad about this site.

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We were looking at the Ok Cupid site and we were just wondering what do you put married looking for friends or be up front and tell the truth or wait on that part? we wanted to ask someone who has used the site before. We dont want to lie about anything but we dont want scare anyone off either. So any info would be appreciated. John_and_lori
 
I am not incredibly familiar with OK Cupid myself but I have heard there is a Married but available/looking status, is that not so? Also, whilst I have heard good things from some people lots of Poly people have encountered quite negative reactions on there, so be up front from the beginning because if anyone feels that they have been betrayed you may find yourself blackballed or something.

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We are up front about it. Our profile starts off talking about our relationship and intentions. When we signed up we chose the option ‘available’ it doesn’t say married or not, just says ‘available’. We have had a few negative comments but not much, a lot of times we get ignored when we message, but we have gotten positive responses to. Nothing lasting has surfaced but at least we are sharing about the lifestyle.
 
Has BF ever considered putting a "personal ads" segment on here?
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Yes, but so far we've rejected it in favor of our less public Introductions service, that admittedly has been pretty slow lately (we haven't been pushing it.) We're not totally opposed to a personals site, though I think are issues to overcome, and some members have considered starting such, but finding both the time and the right proposal to overcome the problems, are roadblocks.
 
That makes sense. Maybe there could be a "half way" sort of compromise...What about taking the intro letters that are submitted to you and posting them here in the forum in their own heading? It would sort of give people a chance to mingle in the virtual sense...A few kinks to work out of course, but there could be something there... :)
 
irishprincess09 said:
That makes sense. Maybe there could be a "half way" sort of compromise...What about taking the intro letters that are submitted to you and posting them here in the forum in their own heading? It would sort of give people a chance to mingle in the virtual sense...A few kinks to work out of course, but there could be something there... :)
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irishprincess09 makes a good point

Do you mean like each person could post a letter expressly stating they are looking for someone and people could post questions publically. That way they do not have to answer the same questions to every person who is interested multiple times or write an ever-increasing self-description?

And then it might be nice to separate platonic introductions to the community and introductions for the idea of dating/marriage/courtship as two separate categories.

And it would also be nice if the woman would boldly say whether or not they want men to send them emails at the time, on account of the Biblical Families policy from what I understand is not to be agressive with the woman yet people can still contact the woman which is VAGUE compared with the woman openly expressing whether or not they want men to contact them initially and what types of email contact are appropriate and inappropriate....... no wonder I want an overseas bride, at least they can be honest about whether or not they want to get married.
 
Each member can use their profile to let others know where they are regarding "availability". A non married woman can put that she is looking, or open to being contacted, or open to being contacted by the wife only, or whatever. The same thing for a married man and his wife. They can each say that they are open, or what their situation is like in the area of "looking", "open", or "curious".

Because sending a PM or email through the forum requires clicking on the profile of the user, this might be a simple and effective way to inform the others about "status".

Blessings.

(now everybody is going to click on my profile to see if I have this on mine ;) )
 
Paul not the apostle said:
Each member can use their profile to let others know where they are regarding "availability". A non married woman can put that she is looking, or open to being contacted, or open to being contacted by the wife only, or whatever. The same thing for a married man and his wife. They can each say that they are open, or what their situation is like in the area of "looking", "open", or "curious".

Because sending a PM or email through the forum requires clicking on the profile of the user, this might be a simple and effective way to inform the others about "status".

Blessings.

(now everybody is going to click on my profile to see if I have this on mine ;) )
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Maybe it should be clearly posted somewhere where most members will initially see that this is advice for setting up a profile and also that if you are looking for a partner that posting gender is advised (for singles for groups I guess, that could post a set of genders.) Although I suppose a woman could look for either a woman or a male partner but a man could only look for a woman partner. Because the woman could be looking for another woman to pair with her future or current husband.
 
paul:
that was incredibly simple and exceedingly brilliant. :D
 
I agree with the others that Paul has a really good idea :D . And as I just said earlier the problem now is how to get people to realize they should implement that idea when setting up profiles.
 
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