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John_and_Lori
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Let us know if BF decides to post personal ads.
Tell you what, that profile idea was dynamite.
All I can say is thank goodness for email or I would have to install a second mail box at home and buy the postman a bigger bike, yes my word!
To philipinegirl4u@yahoo.uk, your twin boys look very healthy and to answer your question yes there is an infant clinic in walking distance; but have you really finished high school?
Also hot79granny@gmail.com, Australia does have an excellent aged care system but I am not sure about those prior criminal convictions with our stringent visa requirements.
And finally lovechunks92@hotmail.ru.com, were all those tattoos done by licensed practitioners? I want blood tests.
Got to dash, the inbox is beeping again.
ylop
All I can say is thank goodness for email or I would have to install a second mail box at home and buy the postman a bigger bike, yes my word!
To philipinegirl4u@yahoo.uk, your twin boys look very healthy and to answer your question yes there is an infant clinic in walking distance; but have you really finished high school?
Also hot79granny@gmail.com, Australia does have an excellent aged care system but I am not sure about those prior criminal convictions with our stringent visa requirements.
And finally lovechunks92@hotmail.ru.com, were all those tattoos done by licensed practitioners? I want blood tests.
Got to dash, the inbox is beeping again.
ylop
John_and_Lori said:
There is too much liabilty that comes with facilitating relationships. Polygamy is seen as illegal, unlawful, and immoral by many. The BF ministry is one of support and information and it protected by not engaging in any activity that might tie BF to any controversy. If BF begins to have personal ads there could be a situation of liability.
The forum rules can incorporate a small paragraph about placing "availability status" on a profile. BF can also send a small intro message to all new sign ups that links to the forum rules as a matter of courtesy. Most forums do this and it seems to be beneficial.
MiniMinistries
New Member
Hello brothers and sisters. I am new here and we have a small but growing and thriving plural ministry in Denver. We found this website and it is very close to what we are establishing in the Rocky Mountains. Thank you for this website!
Most of us tried the online thing too, but with disappointing results. We found it was much more productive to find people looking for a Poly family in person. We started a woman's group to introduce Bible based poly marriage concepts. It took a few weeks but we started to see that it was something that people, especially women were very receptive to.
Of course when word gets out about a Poly church, men come from all over the world looking for a second wife. We didn't want these women to get overwhelmed (guys, you know we sometimes get when competing for a female) so we took the informotion provided by the men and passed it along to all the interested women. If they were interested, the women initiated the contact.
I'm happy to say that even though not all of our members live poly marriages, there are a lot that do, and there is a healthy pool of available women and families that can choose someone to pursue their interests with. However I can see the benefit of expanding that to an online format to cull more people that are interested.
In Christ,
MM
Most of us tried the online thing too, but with disappointing results. We found it was much more productive to find people looking for a Poly family in person. We started a woman's group to introduce Bible based poly marriage concepts. It took a few weeks but we started to see that it was something that people, especially women were very receptive to.
Of course when word gets out about a Poly church, men come from all over the world looking for a second wife. We didn't want these women to get overwhelmed (guys, you know we sometimes get when competing for a female) so we took the informotion provided by the men and passed it along to all the interested women. If they were interested, the women initiated the contact.
I'm happy to say that even though not all of our members live poly marriages, there are a lot that do, and there is a healthy pool of available women and families that can choose someone to pursue their interests with. However I can see the benefit of expanding that to an online format to cull more people that are interested.
In Christ,
MM
MiniMinistries said:
How did you do this? And do you think outsiders will say you are keeping all the women for yourself?
MiniMinistries
New Member
We took a practice approach we learned from experiences women told us about online match making and tried to shield them as much as possible from that same experience. once word got out that we were a home study group that was poly friendly, we were inundated with mmale membership. Of course all are welcome but we noticed a disproportionate number of men to women ratios. Most of these men had never had more than one wife before and they seemed more concerned with getting asecond wife than learning anything the Word of God had to teach.
we started to get complaints from both single and married women about the relentless and sometimes inappropriate advances from these men. We were forced to address these issues to the men and women separately. The feedback from the women was nearly unanimous....IF WE ARE INTERESTED WE'LL LET YOU KNOW! We started to loose members from both genders; the men because they thought it would be like shooting fish in a barrel and the women because it was no different than a sexed up nightclub.
One of our sisters came up with the idea that if a man was interested in a particular woman, he could fill out a "meet request".that would be turned in to her and she would pass it along to the woman he was iinterested in. If the feeling was mutual, she would then initiate the courtship. By offering this barrier, the women felt a level of privacy and the men clearly understood there were boundaries that must be respected. This also allowed us to continue to pursue our learning and worship of God without losing sight of why we were formed in the first place. It also acted as a natural ffilter against men who were there just for the purpose of finding a second wife. After all, we were a Bible study groupnot a dating service in disguise.
When we began a serious membership drive, we had this system in ace to reassure our fame members that a poly marriage was secondary to developing our relationship with God. Then our numbers really increased.
We have been accused of "hoarding" women from men that had a largely Mormon view of polygyny. However unlike many of the Mormon horror stories of pushing out single men and so called church leaders kept many of the women for themselves. This is not the case. We do not oppress any person to the benefit to another. Those that accused us of that quickly left our group and went their way.
We had a radio show for some time and regularly touched on the subject of poly marriage as an accepted form of a Biblical holy marriage. We simply stated that anyone wanting to unlearn what western culture incorrectly taught us, we would welcome their inquiries. When a woman called, she was directed to the woman's group director so they could speak freely woman to woman and the men were directed to the men's group director to help determine if their inquiry was genuine or just curiosity.
We got a lot of response from many non poly Christians that saw the conflict in teachings from their respective denominations. Once they reconciled that many faiths "added" extra sins not specifically spelled out by the Word of God, the word spread like wildfire. Nearly 90% of our membership came from.word or mouth.
Because there was a lot of unanswered questions about poly marriages, I made a documentary that helped bridge.the gap between monogamy and polygyny and that really seemed to be a positive recruiting tool.
I am pleased to say that we are now faced with the problem of finding a commercial space to accommodate our members. Once you let God lead, all you have to do is follow in faith. We have members that have moved to Colorado to join like minded Christians like us. We are now developing a resource department to assist with finding housing and eemployment for our transplant members.
Thank you for the opportunity to share our ministry's vision. I know that this was a long post!
In Christ,
MM
we started to get complaints from both single and married women about the relentless and sometimes inappropriate advances from these men. We were forced to address these issues to the men and women separately. The feedback from the women was nearly unanimous....IF WE ARE INTERESTED WE'LL LET YOU KNOW! We started to loose members from both genders; the men because they thought it would be like shooting fish in a barrel and the women because it was no different than a sexed up nightclub.
One of our sisters came up with the idea that if a man was interested in a particular woman, he could fill out a "meet request".that would be turned in to her and she would pass it along to the woman he was iinterested in. If the feeling was mutual, she would then initiate the courtship. By offering this barrier, the women felt a level of privacy and the men clearly understood there were boundaries that must be respected. This also allowed us to continue to pursue our learning and worship of God without losing sight of why we were formed in the first place. It also acted as a natural ffilter against men who were there just for the purpose of finding a second wife. After all, we were a Bible study groupnot a dating service in disguise.
When we began a serious membership drive, we had this system in ace to reassure our fame members that a poly marriage was secondary to developing our relationship with God. Then our numbers really increased.
We have been accused of "hoarding" women from men that had a largely Mormon view of polygyny. However unlike many of the Mormon horror stories of pushing out single men and so called church leaders kept many of the women for themselves. This is not the case. We do not oppress any person to the benefit to another. Those that accused us of that quickly left our group and went their way.
We had a radio show for some time and regularly touched on the subject of poly marriage as an accepted form of a Biblical holy marriage. We simply stated that anyone wanting to unlearn what western culture incorrectly taught us, we would welcome their inquiries. When a woman called, she was directed to the woman's group director so they could speak freely woman to woman and the men were directed to the men's group director to help determine if their inquiry was genuine or just curiosity.
We got a lot of response from many non poly Christians that saw the conflict in teachings from their respective denominations. Once they reconciled that many faiths "added" extra sins not specifically spelled out by the Word of God, the word spread like wildfire. Nearly 90% of our membership came from.word or mouth.
Because there was a lot of unanswered questions about poly marriages, I made a documentary that helped bridge.the gap between monogamy and polygyny and that really seemed to be a positive recruiting tool.
I am pleased to say that we are now faced with the problem of finding a commercial space to accommodate our members. Once you let God lead, all you have to do is follow in faith. We have members that have moved to Colorado to join like minded Christians like us. We are now developing a resource department to assist with finding housing and eemployment for our transplant members.
Thank you for the opportunity to share our ministry's vision. I know that this was a long post!
In Christ,
MM
MiniMinistries
New Member
Please excuse the typos and punctuation mistakes. I replied from my not so smart phone and the touch screen is smaller than the thumbs the good Lord blessed me with! I guess I'll have to learn to type with the tips of pens or pencils. Speech! I just got the hang of typing while driving... 
I am feeling distinctly uncomfortable with the 'commoditisation' of women that seems to be happening here; and don't see it as helpful for the long-term viability of Biblical marriages.
Kind of like - "Hey, are you the [church/web site/dating service] with the women?"
"Honey, look, they have women over there, lets go..."
"Look, there's a cutey, go and ask her".
The scenario that appears to be playing out is:
Distasteful and to be avoided at all costs.
ylop
Kind of like - "Hey, are you the [church/web site/dating service] with the women?"
"Honey, look, they have women over there, lets go..."
"Look, there's a cutey, go and ask her".
The scenario that appears to be playing out is:
Distasteful and to be avoided at all costs.
ylop
ylop said:
Couldn't agree more.
Sounds like MiniMinistries has it solved in their group. Good for them.
I know we've been trying to, with limited success. Having said that, single women on BF ARE free to say no to any suitor, or to initiate a courtship on their own.
itainteasy
Member
ylop
you are soooo hilarious in almost all your posts! I can imagine you saying this stuff in the Australian accent! :lol: :lol: :lol:
you are soooo hilarious in almost all your posts! I can imagine you saying this stuff in the Australian accent! :lol: :lol: :lol: