I am being very lazy and negligent in not looking this up myself but I'm at work on a break, isn't there a verse that says if a man puts his woman away unlawfully and she goes on to remarry that the sin falls back on the first husband?
If the guy is revealed to be a player and a manipulator who will never give a writing because it would contradict his justification for casually getting rid of the second, is the woman bound?
Yeah, that's the crux of it. My concern is that if we allow the guy to flip-flop but hold the girl to her vow, that's rewarding injustice and punishing naiveté. But depending on how you parse the "what constitutes a valid marriage?" and "what constitutes a valid divorce?" questions....I would ask if she was ever bound or just seduced?
That gets you back to "what constitutes a marriage"?I would ask if she was ever bound or just seduced?
...which equals freedom on her part?The woman who is put away without a get is still eligible for support just not intimacy. No support equals abandonment. Abandonment equals broken covenant on his part.
No, it wouldn't, if sex is all that matters. I don't view it that way.That gets you back to "what constitutes a marriage"?
Seduced or not, if you view sex=marriage, does it matter?
Perfect sense to me, but I'm not someone who automatically views sex=marriage. If she was duped, then she was entangled in something under false pretenses.No, it wouldn't, if sex is all that matters. I don't view it that way.
My concern here is the grey area. I'm aware of a few guys who have had enough short-term second "wives" to raise an eyebrow. I know of a coupla others who have used a "you're not really my wife" tactic maliciously as a control thing. If the guy said originally she was coming in as a wife, then says she's not a wife, he might have been lying to her, or he might have been lying to himself, or he wasn't really "lying" to anyone as much as he was of such weak character that he just can't handle the situation and bails (blaming the woman, of course). Some of those situations present as a case where the woman is 'put away but not divorced', and ineligible for remarriage. Some present as a kind of Samuel-esque "oral marriage commitment, oral divorce" situation. But for some of these it's that the man is denying his original intent and repudiating the marriage. I don't want to let him get away with that, but I don't want to punish the woman for it while he's off scot free. Make sense?
Seems like it from Exodus 21:10&11. If he doesn't fulfill his part of the covenant she's free to go out....which equals freedom on her part?
@Quartus I think in Romans, Paul is dealing with the issue of the wife being married to another without being released or abandoned/forsaken by the first husband as both are caveats under the law he was quoting from as the passage in 1 Cor indicates that if there is abandonment she is free or no longer bound. If she is no longer bound, adultery cannot be charged as adultery is at its simplest definition covenant breaking. No covenant, no adultery.
Is the “1 Cor” ref 7:12-15? ~If so, this is to “the rest”, and every one of those verses specifically involves unbelievers, but excludes those already mentioned vv1-11 husbands, wives, the unmarried, widows and the married, so I consider vv 1-11 refer to believers and understand vv10-11 apply to sisters who had been married after becoming sisters, either by subsequently contracting marriage or consenting to continue (ratifying) a marriage prior to baptism.
With regard to the rest then, if the unbelieving husband objects to the sister accepting Christ (at the time she comes to the truth) and will not live peaceably, then that marriage can be considered void, and the new sister comes (scripturally) single not divorced (and if single NEVER lives with her unbelieving husband after baptism and so has departed from him prior to baptism), and can therefore marry without considerations of divorce and remarriage being relevant (after the state has finished tidying up anything the state has not previously finished tidying up). But none of that affects my position on Romans 7:2-3.
Regarding Romans 7:2-3, I am really struggling see how these verses are at all useful in the context of Paul’s wider argument (Rom 6-8) if it only needs a piece of paper to completely negate his point. These are just two verses in the middle of a section that exceeds two chapters, starting in ch 6:1 (if not before) and continuing to 8:13 (if not after). Within that section, (excluding our two verses in the middle), “dead” occurs 14 times and “death” also occurs another 14 times. 8:13 contains a final reference to “die”.
We know from Luke 20 etc that when Christ argued no one could answer him a word. Why then should the same Spirit through the inspired apostle completely negate a carefully laid argument with over 29 references to mortality and important lessons drawn from them, by introducing a spurious reference to a married woman if Paul’s whole argument can be negated by a single piece of paper?
Taking Romans chapters 6-8 as a whole then, was it necessary for Christ to die, or not? The temptation, calling Peter “satan”, the great drops of blood in the garden, the twelve legions of angels on standby but not called, not to mention the suffering of scourging and the crucifixion - many valid examples are ignored and instead the argument is devalued by an unnecessary reference to the a divorced woman… UNLESS… there are in fact no exceptions and only the death of the first husband could free her to marry, and therefore 7:2-3 illustrates precisely that marriage divorce and remarriage which is natural has an exact spiritual counterpart with what Paul is expounding: the natural man must actually first be put to death by symbolic immersion in baptism (v1) before (v4) the spiritual symbolic resurrection (coming out of the water of baptism) gives freedom for the new spiritual man to enter marriage with Christ.
So I’m sorry, but I still think the law is simply that a woman married as a believer cannot remarry unless the first husband is actually dead and buried, and the piece of paper cannot be more than the evidence in writing of the state of a woman who is still bound by that same law.
and the piece of paper cannot be more than the evidence in writing of the state of a woman who is still bound by that same law.
The real point at issue is whether anyone can read Rom chapters 6-8 and then tell me that 7:2-3 is in the right place if acceptable remarriage of a believing woman does not actually require the death and burial of the woman's husband?
Therefore I think that Rom 7:2-3 is Paul's commentary on Deut 24:1, and he is saying the death of the first husband is actually required, not the writing of divorcement in order for the woman to be free to remarry.
Both letters must be understood as 'midrash' -- Paul's (excellent) exposition of the consequences of the commandments, primarily, when it comes to "putting away" and whether or NOT it amounts to "divorce," that of Deuteronomy 24:1, repeated almost word-for-word, to make the point about the process, in verse 3.
A woman who does NOT have a 'sefer keritutath' (certificate of divorce) or witness from her FORMER living husband, and whose husband is not "dead and buried", simply HAS a "living husband." Ergo, she "is not to depart," and if she sleeps with another man, it's adultery.
(Aside: Paul's midrash there is interesting, and virtually unique in Scripture. Virtually NOWHERE else does YHVH say, "don't do this, but IF..." unless He is talking about consequences, like death. And yet Shaul says, "the isha is NOT to depart! But IF she does..."
...as if he understood what we have all seen. She IS, however, clearly still NOT 'free to remarry'. She HAS a living husband.)
Exodus 21:10, of course, is a somewhat special case. It deals with a woman who is a maidservant, and 'not free'. The point of the verse is that she is to be TREATED with the respect that YHVH requires, and if not (not given those three "necessary conditions" -- she does NOT owe the 'qesef' (silver) that put her in such debt to begin with. The general "Hebraic understanding" of the 'light and the heavy' thus becomes the minimum necessary conditions for ANY marriage:
If THIS for a 'concubine' -- the HOW MUCH MORE SO for a wife who is a voluntary Covenant partner?
But the larger point remains Numbers 30 as well, and authority over vows. Remember this, in the equally "general case":
"He bears her guilt."
If a woman physically leaves a man that she has legitimately married (in YHWH's eyes) over disagreement with how he is operating in his role as husband (no accusation of specific sin), can she claim abandonment due to the fact that he curtailed his financial support after she moved out?The woman who is put away without a get is still eligible for support just not intimacy. No support equals abandonment. Abandonment equals broken covenant on his part.