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LaMarcus

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I am 19 and currently navigating homelessness due to a family breakdown. And polygyny is important to me because I come from a broken family, toxicity, neglect, abuse, drugs, and alcohol, and smoking, and criminal activity, and financial irresponsibility that I have to COMPLETELY leave behind COMPLETELY and my children and grandchildren need hands to hold. They need a support a network. I'm trying to raise future LEADERS, lawyers, good doctors, business owners, and phenomenal wives and husbands who know how to keep their bag up and raise children to stick together and shoot for the stars..🥺

I am applying to the University of Michigan, where I qualify for housing assistance, with plans to study entrepreneurship, marketing, accounting, and mechanics. My goal is to build a successful car-detailing business to break generational cycles of poverty and instability. I want to build a new family foundation rooted in faith, discipline, and mutual support.

Long-term, I desire a committed, faith-based polygynous family structure focused on legacy and raising children in a stable, Christ-centered home. I am looking for a woman or women to build this foundation with me. Lionesses to my lion pack if you will.

Most advice I received locally from the city I'm trying to escape is the opposite: “You’re young, sleep around, wait until 28, don’t think about legacy yet.” That feels like accepting mediocrity and short-term pleasure over lasting fruit. I’m not interested in that path.

I would deeply value any guidance on how young men like me with limited resources can find like-minded women who would deeply desire me and have faith in me. Not women who are looking for a finished product or a safety net. Women who want me and my mission, an empire we can share together.

Specifically, I have two questions:

1. Where should I look?
2. Can women who are initially hesitant due to cultural conditioning come to accept polygyny through relationship and deconstruction, or does it typically require someone already open to it?
 
Specifically, I have two questions:

1. Where should I look?
2. Can women who are initially hesitant due to cultural conditioning come to accept polygyny through relationship and deconstruction, or does it typically require someone already open to it?

Hi, and welcome! :)

Before we get to your questions let's look at this:

I am 19 and currently navigating homelessness due to a family breakdown.

and this:

I am applying to the University of Michigan, where I qualify for housing assistance, with plans to study entrepreneurship, marketing, accounting, and mechanics. My goal is to build a successful car-detailing business to break generational cycles of poverty and instability.

Before you concern yourself with women you need to get your own situation in order.

You seem to be finding a way to deal with homelessness and I pray you all success.

But you came from a broken family and that leaves a mark. Trust me, I know. ;)

I would encourage you to seek out a trusted counselor to help you sort through what went on with your family, to help you plan a path to avoid repeating their mistakes, and to help you resolve your own issues with this. I have no doubt that this left a mark on you and if you want to leave generations of mistakes behind you then this should be a priority.

I'm also going to recommend a tour in the military where you will learn discipline, you will learn much of what you want to find at UoM, and you'll also find some positive friends and positive role models. They'll pay you for this as opposed to piling on student debt which is very likely at UoM.

There are also many wise, older men here who have informed advice and they have applied this advice in their lives and in their families. I encourage you to seek them out.

Regards,

Megan
 
Hi, and welcome! :)

Before we get to your questions let's look at this:



and this:



Before you concern yourself with women you need to get your own situation in order.

You seem to be finding a way to deal with homelessness and I pray you all success.

But you came from a broken family and that leaves a mark. Trust me, I know. ;)

I would encourage you to seek out a trusted counselor to help you sort through what went on with your family, to help you plan a path to avoid repeating their mistakes, and to help you resolve your own issues with this. I have no doubt that this left a mark on you and if you want to leave generations of mistakes behind you then this should be a priority.

I'm also going to recommend a tour in the military where you will learn discipline, you will learn much of what you want to find at UoM, and you'll also find some positive friends and positive role models. They'll pay you for this as opposed to piling on student debt which is very likely at UoM.

There are also many wise, older men here who have informed advice and they have applied this advice in their lives and in their families. I encourage you to seek them out.

Regards,

Megan
I've heard about joining the military a few different times but I haven't really been given a timeline nor the benefits of doing that really broken down for me.

>"Before we get to your questions let's look at this"

And I'm just thinking ahead I'm already acting on my current circumstances and I already have a plan so that's not what I'm worried about. It's why I came and asked about what I'd do AFTER I get into the U of M WITHOUT debt btw because I qualify for Fasfa grants that I don't have to pay back. And I'm already focused on networking getting mentors and learning once I move into a better city.

Thank you for welcoming me though. <3
 
Greetings and welcome to Biblical Families. There's a lot of information here in the forum for you to sift through which will help answer your questions.

We are told in Proverbs 24:27, Prepare your outside work, Make it fit for yourself in the field; And afterward build your house. It's a wise order for your life; get your work/business situation set up then establish your home. Have a solid biblical foundation for your life. Cheers
 
Greetings and welcome to Biblical Families. There's a lot of information here in the forum for you to sift through which will help answer your questions.

We are told in Proverbs 24:27, Prepare your outside work, Make it fit for yourself in the field; And afterward build your house. It's a wise order for your life; get your work/business situation set up then establish your home. Have a solid biblical foundation for your life. Cheers
Bro! That scripture is awesome! Thank you for sharing it!!

I believe it is applicable to those that do not have land as well. Focus on the things that produce for you and then later, build your house. Houses don't feed you... They are typically our place of rest and we have to pay for that! :)

Thanks again Frederick!
 
Welcome!
I salute your goals and intentions, it’s good to have a vision.
I would advise that it might be shortsighted to focus on university rather than military. There are things that you would experience in the military that you will never experience in university. Don’t let the grants be your deciding factor. In fact, grants don’t contribute to your vision of accomplishment, of achieving a future through personal development.
I wish you well.
 
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