Taller on my knees
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Hi DTT,
I feel that I may have something to offer in here by simply cautioning you against the practice of "Perfectionism". I struggle with it constantly within myself. The drive to do our best in all things is an admirable quality, to be sure! However, when we allow it to consume us, we tend to find more flaws in all that we've been given and leave little room for our Father to teach us.
As an artist, business owner (part- time), employee (full-time), husband, father, lover and follower of Christ, I find that it is in those times that I allow myself to seek perfectionism rather than attending to the task at hand in a timely manner, that I find the wreckage of reglect in my wake. I have disregarded my helpmeet, allowed my emotions to attatch themselves to something rather than someone and left no room for God's grace to work through my imperfections.
Over the last 20 years, I can look back and see that my life looks nothing like what I planned for it to look like when I left high school. I don't have all the material possesions that i was certain to be in my future nor do I have the supermodel wife that I was planning on. What I do have is a Godly wife, the possesions that I need and an abundace of faith in God's providing hand.
How broken would my life be if I had gotten all that I planned for? Through the "miracle" of Facebook, I can catch a glimpse of how much fruit is in the life of that "supermodel wife" I had chosen. The memory and reality are very distant from one another.
The main point I would like to make here is that God will lead you forward down the road that He chooses and will provide you the wisdom and resources you need as long as you listen closely to His voice. I appluad you in your desire to be a good steward before marriage. Most people of this generation would do well to follow your example. Just be sure to not miss the Lord's voice when He speaks because you are too tied up in "details".
I feel that I may have something to offer in here by simply cautioning you against the practice of "Perfectionism". I struggle with it constantly within myself. The drive to do our best in all things is an admirable quality, to be sure! However, when we allow it to consume us, we tend to find more flaws in all that we've been given and leave little room for our Father to teach us.
As an artist, business owner (part- time), employee (full-time), husband, father, lover and follower of Christ, I find that it is in those times that I allow myself to seek perfectionism rather than attending to the task at hand in a timely manner, that I find the wreckage of reglect in my wake. I have disregarded my helpmeet, allowed my emotions to attatch themselves to something rather than someone and left no room for God's grace to work through my imperfections.
Over the last 20 years, I can look back and see that my life looks nothing like what I planned for it to look like when I left high school. I don't have all the material possesions that i was certain to be in my future nor do I have the supermodel wife that I was planning on. What I do have is a Godly wife, the possesions that I need and an abundace of faith in God's providing hand.
How broken would my life be if I had gotten all that I planned for? Through the "miracle" of Facebook, I can catch a glimpse of how much fruit is in the life of that "supermodel wife" I had chosen. The memory and reality are very distant from one another.
The main point I would like to make here is that God will lead you forward down the road that He chooses and will provide you the wisdom and resources you need as long as you listen closely to His voice. I appluad you in your desire to be a good steward before marriage. Most people of this generation would do well to follow your example. Just be sure to not miss the Lord's voice when He speaks because you are too tied up in "details".