alit53 said:
Faithful Servant said:Greetings Ladies,
Since he prefers to see my hair, and that it isn't a salvation issue or an issue with my dh, for now I'm choosing not to make it an issue either.
I have and do at times wear a head covering at home when dh isn't home. Silly I know, but I don't want to make my dh uncomfortable or feel as though I'm going against his wishes with this matter. Until Yeshua himself strongly convicts me otherwise, I will follow my dh's lead with this matter. Dh wouldn't get upset or forbid me to cover, but I know that it would make him uncomfortable to an extent. Although, when & if Yeshua may choose to convict & lead my dh in this area of covering, I will joyfully obey Yeshua & my dh in that call! I would truly like to be even more modest/conservative & covered at all times, as it does help me to know my place in our God ordained marriage, that Yeshua has planned for women of the faith. It also helps me to feel more encouraged to Godly Submission unto my dh and I feel closer to Yeshua, as I learn and live my life in full obedience to Him and my dh. In the mean time, I do enjoy getting my hands on as many books and studies on the topic as possible & keeping it lifted in prayer. Thanks for the shared wisdom and biblical references to this topic. I look forward to hearing more from other Sisters in Christ who are studying or actually covering at the current time. Take care all, God be with thee, guide thee & bless thee!
As I have already shared here, I do not go against my dh's wishes with anything. As I stated in my recent post here, my dh has Not forbid me to cover as it doesn't upset him. He just isn't a %100 comfortable with it, as he & I are both in agreement that covering is not a salvation issue on any level. He is fully aware that I at times cover while he is at work or where ever, and is just fine with that. I of course have asked his permission with this matter. Sorry if I didn't make myself clear. The only thing dh asked is that if he isn't feeling comfortable on any given day, for what ever reason with my head covering, that I not do it at those times. And again, we both are in full agreement with that. Thank you for the sweet reminder to obey my dh in all things. Go forth in His Might, Power, Love & a Sound Mind. Being a blessing on the path that Yeshua's placed you on, & being blessed in return according to the pure motives of your heart! I am continuing to study & seek His will about this particular topic. As well as seek my dh's permission/approval before doing anything. Which is good timely/Godly & wise advice for all married Christian women. As it's a true shame when modest/conservative women of the faith behave this way at times. Understanding of course, that not all modest women do behave this way. And many women of the faith weather more modest or not act this way, & would do well to check themselves on a regular basis against these prideful issues & behaviors. Preaching to myself as well of course! plantgirl848 said:I certainly agree about obeying your husband. Though if you feel you should be obeying God in something your husband disagrees with, the first thing you should be doing is praying for God to change his heart (1 Peter 3:1-2).
I also agree that daily covering of the hair is not a salvation issue (though I do believe that covering during prayer is different) but it can be considered a modesty issue and can have implications on your soul as well as others. Leading a man to lust would be committing a sin (Matthew 5:27-29). I personally believe that in these modern times, such an issue deals more with clothing and mannerisms than with hair covering. Men are used to seeing hair in our society. I don't believe that most women's hair drives a man to sin. Of course, if I am wrong in this, men please speak up!
It is made clear that a woman should cover her head while praying (1 Corinthians 11:3-10). It was common until about 30 years ago to see women of all denominations wearing hats or veils to Church. Covering your head (not all your hair) during Church shows you obey the Lord and your husband. It is a sign of his leadership over you. What husband would be opposed to that? Maybe his reluctance has more to do with the style of covering instead of the idea of it itself. Most men do not feel comfortable with their wives dressing odd or unusual. They want to take pride in their beautiful wife. So a headcovering that makes him comfortable is a must. And really all that is required is that something is your head. There are many fashionable hats, kerchiefs, and scarves. You do not have to look strange, foreign, or unusual if that is not your thing. Plus, hats are making a comeback in style.
Since I see there is another Heather, I will sign my posts "plantgirl" instead
~plantgirl
The points you & I have shared about the attitudes & true motives of our hearts, for why & how we do anything in the Lord's name is what matters. Especially how we treat others, while professing to be modest, covered or wise in the Lord! Are we truly loving our neighbors as ourselves, or are we always waiting to lecture & judge them with all of our "little teachable moments?" It's easy to become prideful and claim that others aren't being obedient to scripture or their dh's, especially when our heart's motives aren't in the right place/in Godly order in the first place. I've checked into a few of them before, and am enjoying the other links as well. I have enjoyed your shared wisdom and heart on this topic of head covering. Very insightful & thought provoking. I'm still enjoying praying and studying about this topic, and am looking forward to where Yeshua will lead both me & my dh in this matter. Good discussion ladies, extra godly food for thought! seekHim1 said:
