Y’all, I’ve wondered about this subject and wanted to get feedback from the married folks here. For instance, Kody Brown and his wives have separate houses, but before that they shared a house, granted it was very small for that many people.
What are your thoughts or views on residing in the same house or separate housing?
Personally, I feel like one house will fit me. Considering I want to have a big house anyways with a minimum of 5 bedrooms.
Firstly, hello my name is Aubrey Jo. I am a second wife. I've been married for almost 11 years.
My sister wife and I live in the same house. However, she has her own bedroom, bath and closet and I have my own bedroom, bath and closet. Essentially a master suite and a mother-in-law suite. All other areas of the home are shared, including kids rooms. All of our kids are mixed in together. This works great for us.
That being said very dear friend of mine owned a duplex and had one wife on each side. Rooms and space were exactly the same, just a mirror image. Worked great for them, not ideal for me.
We meant the whole Brown family in person in their homes and remain in contact with Christine Brown. One interesting thing that they have mentioned the many times, both in their show and off their show is that their relationship as sister wives changed dramatically when they weren't living under one roof. And some of them would say dramatically for the worst.
Some of the greatest benefits in my mind of living polygamy today are the support of having multiple adults handling chores, bills and children. This support can still be there, but is much less prominent if living separately. There is also a mental/emotional intimacy that comes from seeing each other, and being a part of each other's everyday life, that kind of bonding takes place better when everyone's under one roof. Also a working towards the same goal, as the same family, under the same roof closeness. These benefits and things that draw family together are significantly lessened when you have family living across town or in other houses. Not saying that it's impossible. But of all the poly families I have known the ones living under the same roof tend to do better and live happier.
Just an opinion but definitely something to think about. Now if constantly being this close causes constant argument, wives may do better in duplex or townhouse situations. But in that case, I would suggest being careful to be sure that space form and function are equal between wives.
Where one chooses to live is simply not as important as the bonds that you choose to forge together. Do what works for you, But come together as a complete family as often as possible. Good luck.