I remember having a deep discussion with my wife Natalie one day in which I asked her point blank… “Now that we both have a testimony of plural marriage and have determined to live it as a family, what are your thoughts on how I should interact with a girl whom I get close with as my future wife“? Her response caught me off guard. She said “you better give her all the same affection and courtesy that you gave to me, meaning you hold her hand, show her that you cherish her, hug her, and when appropriate to kiss her.“
I feel that this is important and shows where she is truly at in her own mind. Her enthusiasm to make sure that her incoming sister or sisters have the same love and affection that she received is absolute selflessness on her part. It shows that she has the right spirit about it. She unequivocally believes that every girl should be able to feel the same affection and experience having her heart skip a beat from those good feelings of being in love. She said “if we treat plural marriage any different, then we make it lesser” which is not correct in God‘s eyes because God wants everyone to experience joy and happiness. We are given those feelings of excitement and joy when we fall in love for good reason. That’s why I have often argued that marriage is a tender mercy because it’s God‘s way of joining a husband and wife, while giving them all the wonderful feelings and joy that He intends us to experience.
What a blessing it is that my wife understands these things to the core. It is a blessing for an additional wife or wives to come in and know that they are looked out for and that their sister or sisters have their back.
I feel that this is important and shows where she is truly at in her own mind. Her enthusiasm to make sure that her incoming sister or sisters have the same love and affection that she received is absolute selflessness on her part. It shows that she has the right spirit about it. She unequivocally believes that every girl should be able to feel the same affection and experience having her heart skip a beat from those good feelings of being in love. She said “if we treat plural marriage any different, then we make it lesser” which is not correct in God‘s eyes because God wants everyone to experience joy and happiness. We are given those feelings of excitement and joy when we fall in love for good reason. That’s why I have often argued that marriage is a tender mercy because it’s God‘s way of joining a husband and wife, while giving them all the wonderful feelings and joy that He intends us to experience.
What a blessing it is that my wife understands these things to the core. It is a blessing for an additional wife or wives to come in and know that they are looked out for and that their sister or sisters have their back.