Re: Just because polygamy is not illegal does it make it mor
If a man marries a second women, he should not divorce her. But not divorcing the second wife, does not mean that it was not a sin to take the second wife in marriage originally. One could argue that if you have a child out of wedlock, you should be a good father to that child and take care of the child, but that would not justify having a child out of wedlock to begin with. This goes back to my earlier statement "IF YOU SWALLOW POISON CONTACT THE POISON CONTROL CENTER IMMEDIATELY AND FOLLOW THESE DIRECTIONS. This would not mean that it is okay to swallow poison just because there are directions for what to do afterward."
"I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
Malachi 2:16 NIV
Second even if it did mean polygamy was okay for Abraham, that would only mean polygamy is okay in some cases and possibly only one case. It would not mean polygamy is okay in all cases, because it was not a command to all people, but rather merely to Hagar and possibly but not necessarily also indirectly Abraham's family.
Third God did not tell Hagar go back to Abraham and stay married to him. She could possibly go back and be a maidservant and not have sex with Abraham anymore and not be married to Abraham anymore. Although I find that doubtful God would probably expect her to stay married because God hates divorce.
It is interesting because people have used what God told Hagar and Abraham also to try to refute polygamy
Anti-Polygamists will use
When Abram was ninety-nine years old, the LORD appeared to him and said, "I am God Almighty ; walk before me and be blameless.
Genesis 17:1 NIV
to justify anti-polygamy by saying God told Abraham to walk before him blameless because he committed a sin in Genesis 16 and that sin was taking Hagar. I find this objection laughable, because God wants all people to be blameless, if Abraham had not committed any sin in the last 10 years God might still till him to walk before him and be blameless because God would not want him to commit a future sin! Furthermore this objection is laughable because God did not name marrying Hagar as his sin in Genesis 17:1, even if Ge 17:1 meant he committed a sin, it could have been any action he did, not necessarily marrying Hagar but another action.
Anti-Polygamists will also use Genesis 21:8-14 NIV
The child grew and was weaned, and on the day Isaac was weaned Abraham held a great feast. But Sarah saw that the son whom Hagar the Egyptian had borne to Abraham was mocking, and she said to Abraham, "Get rid of that slave woman and her son, for that slave woman's son will never share in the inheritance with my son Isaac." The matter distressed Abraham greatly because it concerned his son. But God said to him, "Do not be so distressed about the boy and your maidservant. Listen to whatever Sarah tells you, because it is through Isaac that your offspring will be reckoned. I will make the son of the maidservant into a nation also, because he is your offspring." Early the next morning Abraham took some food and a skin of water and gave them to Hagar. He set them on her shoulders and then sent her off with the boy. She went on her way and wandered in the desert of Beersheba.
They would argue something like
If God told Abraham to send Hagar away, God is saying that marriage to two wives is sinful and a divorce is actually commanded at that point!
Where as you would say that
If God told Hagar to go back to Abram, how is that not God saying that marriage to two wives is okay and actually commanded at that point.
This is one of many examples why I think what God commanded to someone within the set and situation that the command applies is a more appropriate way of deciding morality than using what God commanded to someone in one set to apply to someone in a different set.
Or in other words it is much better to determine morality by Bible commands than by Bible Stories.
(Bible stories are historically accurate I do not mean that they are not historically accurate by the use of the word story.)
By the way I really appreciate pointing out that God told Hagar to go back to Abraham because a lot of people try to use Hagar as a reason against polygamy and this argument is very helpful for me to remember and grow in faith.
Fairlight said:sweetlissa said:If God told Hagar to go back to Abram, how is that not God saying that marriage to two wives is okay and actually commanded at that point.
If polygyny were wrong or sinful, then God would have never told her to go back into it. God hates sin and has no part in it...period.
Blessings,
Fairlight
If a man marries a second women, he should not divorce her. But not divorcing the second wife, does not mean that it was not a sin to take the second wife in marriage originally. One could argue that if you have a child out of wedlock, you should be a good father to that child and take care of the child, but that would not justify having a child out of wedlock to begin with. This goes back to my earlier statement "IF YOU SWALLOW POISON CONTACT THE POISON CONTROL CENTER IMMEDIATELY AND FOLLOW THESE DIRECTIONS. This would not mean that it is okay to swallow poison just because there are directions for what to do afterward."
"I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
Malachi 2:16 NIV
Second even if it did mean polygamy was okay for Abraham, that would only mean polygamy is okay in some cases and possibly only one case. It would not mean polygamy is okay in all cases, because it was not a command to all people, but rather merely to Hagar and possibly but not necessarily also indirectly Abraham's family.
Third God did not tell Hagar go back to Abraham and stay married to him. She could possibly go back and be a maidservant and not have sex with Abraham anymore and not be married to Abraham anymore. Although I find that doubtful God would probably expect her to stay married because God hates divorce.
It is interesting because people have used what God told Hagar and Abraham also to try to refute polygamy
Anti-Polygamists will use
When Abram was ninety-nine years old, the LORD appeared to him and said, "I am God Almighty ; walk before me and be blameless.
Genesis 17:1 NIV
to justify anti-polygamy by saying God told Abraham to walk before him blameless because he committed a sin in Genesis 16 and that sin was taking Hagar. I find this objection laughable, because God wants all people to be blameless, if Abraham had not committed any sin in the last 10 years God might still till him to walk before him and be blameless because God would not want him to commit a future sin! Furthermore this objection is laughable because God did not name marrying Hagar as his sin in Genesis 17:1, even if Ge 17:1 meant he committed a sin, it could have been any action he did, not necessarily marrying Hagar but another action.
Anti-Polygamists will also use Genesis 21:8-14 NIV
The child grew and was weaned, and on the day Isaac was weaned Abraham held a great feast. But Sarah saw that the son whom Hagar the Egyptian had borne to Abraham was mocking, and she said to Abraham, "Get rid of that slave woman and her son, for that slave woman's son will never share in the inheritance with my son Isaac." The matter distressed Abraham greatly because it concerned his son. But God said to him, "Do not be so distressed about the boy and your maidservant. Listen to whatever Sarah tells you, because it is through Isaac that your offspring will be reckoned. I will make the son of the maidservant into a nation also, because he is your offspring." Early the next morning Abraham took some food and a skin of water and gave them to Hagar. He set them on her shoulders and then sent her off with the boy. She went on her way and wandered in the desert of Beersheba.
They would argue something like
If God told Abraham to send Hagar away, God is saying that marriage to two wives is sinful and a divorce is actually commanded at that point!
Where as you would say that
If God told Hagar to go back to Abram, how is that not God saying that marriage to two wives is okay and actually commanded at that point.
This is one of many examples why I think what God commanded to someone within the set and situation that the command applies is a more appropriate way of deciding morality than using what God commanded to someone in one set to apply to someone in a different set.
Or in other words it is much better to determine morality by Bible commands than by Bible Stories.
(Bible stories are historically accurate I do not mean that they are not historically accurate by the use of the word story.)
By the way I really appreciate pointing out that God told Hagar to go back to Abraham because a lot of people try to use Hagar as a reason against polygamy and this argument is very helpful for me to remember and grow in faith.