PS> So, yes, I'm for a 'trial period" of getting-to-know-you, as well. But I add that there is a pragmatic issue with three or four MONTHS, nice as it might be.
In the case of my own recent, BLESSING from Yah addition - who was from halfway across the country, it was logistics. She had an apartment, a (fortunately) remote-work job, and "loose ends" to deal with. Much over a month would have been a major hardship, and a logistical nightmare. SO we spent a lot of time on the phone (all of us) before the first physical meet, prayed together, and discussed everything we could. (And she had already had months to listen to my podcasts and Torah teachings, so knew of my own biases, style, and positions on Scripture, which reflects a lot more anyway. And the fact that she still wanted to come spoke volumes to me. )
In the case of my own recent, BLESSING from Yah addition - who was from halfway across the country, it was logistics. She had an apartment, a (fortunately) remote-work job, and "loose ends" to deal with. Much over a month would have been a major hardship, and a logistical nightmare. SO we spent a lot of time on the phone (all of us) before the first physical meet, prayed together, and discussed everything we could. (And she had already had months to listen to my podcasts and Torah teachings, so knew of my own biases, style, and positions on Scripture, which reflects a lot more anyway. And the fact that she still wanted to come spoke volumes to me. )