Re: My next set of questions II
bobnsandy said:
OK here I go again , from what I have learned form your posts you seem to have a varied church background.
Lifelong, 3rd generation Seventh-day Adventist, in my case, now disfellowshipped over PM.
1. does the church you attend accept you PM? or do they know? or do most of you avoid Church membership?
I've moved around the country in the last 10 years for work and, with one exception, have had open talks with the pastors of the churches I attend. All have welcomed me to worship. Their reaction as relates to my ministering while in their congregation in my gift of music has varied from "Not until you give it up and reconcile with your (first) wife." to "I'm still your pastor, and will consider you a member of my church and worship team, but won't make you a legal member, so that if you ever DO show up with a second wife, I won't have to deal with it as per official church policy."
2. How many of you started out from the start in a PM ("married" the same day)
Not me. Wondered about it since childhood. Was always told it was wrong, but without proof. In my late 30s before I developed enough self confidence (overcame a lifetime of put-downs by family elders who were, in reality, insecure themselves and both terrified and bewildered by this precocious child's intelligence and constant tough questions. *sigh* ), to stand on my own with a simple 'thus saith the Lord' in the face of family, extended family, church, etc. Especially at the cost of a wife, but that's another tragic story so far, and hopefully not over until a happy ending occurs. My second, current, equally beloved wife, came along a couple of years later. Praise be to Yah!
3. Do most of you feel the laws on poly will be changes soon, given the rise of "gay"marrages?
To me it seems the law can't allow one type over another. It make take a court test.
Logically, this is entirely true. It has even been acknowledged by a US supreme court judge. However, a) the devil isn't interested in justice or logic, any more than the gay movement is (they oppose PM, too.) and b) If it is made legal, it may well have a twist in it, or be an intentional method for the government to gain control of a sector that isn't acknowledging its supremacy. So, I wish it would become legal, but am suspicious of results and motivations if it does -- and I'm not a very, or even sufficiently, suspicious person, according to my wife.
4. How many of you have regular Bible study in your home?
A bit tougher. My wife and I both do a lot. Not as formally as in morning and evening worship with the whole family. There are several reasons for that that would take a while to explain but come down to
drawing rather than
pushing teenage family members who had their attitudes towards God seriously damaged before entering our home/family. We do go to both church and prayer meeting on a weekly basis, and I attend a men's study/prayer group as well.
Plus all the great, GREAT fellowship with folks here at BF !