That is the crux of the issue of age-gap relationships. Most people are scared of stepping out of the cultural paradigm and not being normal, but that's exactly what we're called to do; to live in the world but not be of the world.
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Older men and young women having families. What do you think?
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ok, sounds like we agree
we agree here as wellNatural law??
Where exactly is this "law of nature" that feeble old men should marry nubile young women to be found?
I can go to Ecclesiastes and show that there is a time and a season for everything under the sun. The season for reproducing with 20 year olds normally ends well before your 70th birthday.
There are rare exceptions, but it is foolish to assume that you are one of them.
God opened the womb of the 90 year old Sarah, but almost certainly will not open the wombs of most nursing home residents.
My dear husband likes his drinks hot or cold. I like my coffee to not be so hot it kills every enzyme in our good raw cream or milk!...or kills my taste buds!
I appreciate people with strong opinions though, because the wishy-washy seem to me to resemble spineless things....like slugs!
I regularly salt slugs....the ones that get in our house. I liked that guy that had Pass the Salt ministries too! Coach Dave!
I assume the guys you mentioned live in the Philippines and not New Zealand. Is that correct?
I realize this sort of relationship is more prevalent in the Philippines.
I will be truly impressed if they are in New Zealand.
A 22 year age difference (woman in 30s and man in 50s) is significant, but certainly far from extreme. I would certainly never discourage it.
Furthermore, I know that you are a wonderful person @Joleneakamama. I also believe your husband and sister wife to be people of excellence. I'm certain that your home and family will be blessed and happy. I rejoice with you all.
I would however urge serious caution to a 70 year old considering a 20 year old, and to a 20 year old considering a 70 year old.
I'd also urge caution between a Reformed Baptist and a Presbyterian marriage. They need to decide what to do about infant Baptism before the kids arrive.
I know it's kinda fun watching salted slugs melt, but isn't it easier to just toss them to the chickens?
Man_in_the_Middle
Seasoned Member
Why is infant baptism such a big deal? If one parent believes it is wrong, then they can encourage the child to be baptized again when they are an adult. If infant baptism is wrong, it will not send the one doing it to hell nor the one that was baptized "incorrectly". I am baffled by why this topic is so controversial...
No. Because the slugs ONLY come out at night...in our house....while the chickens are sleeping in their coop. If I toss the slug outside...alive...it may return.
Just because it illustrates the fractured nature of denominations....
I know someone who's father was raised Pentacostal as an only child, and who's mother was raised Mennonite in a family of about 8 or 9. The couple was part of a independent fundementalist baptist churchm I heard the pentecostal grandma is very upset that the devil succeeded in getting her son and his family to believe in the Bible.
I was baptized at 9 years in the Mormon church. They teach age of accountability is 8 years old.
Biblical age of accountability is 20 years.
Jesus was approximately 30 when he was baptized by John and began his ministry.
How many mormons baptized at 8 will question their comprehension, or consider being baptized again as adults? I would guess not many, because it felt like denying the legitimacy of my former baptism when I was baptized again at about 26.
Children are not responsible for their own sins before 20 years. Why subject them to a ceremony allegedly washing away their sins?
baptists are historically quite logophobic people
Yes, the Philippines.
...but...
Speak for yourself.
THIS man, who's been 'retired' from the corporate world for well over a decade and a half, just dug a ditch for an underground line, climbed a 70' tower (multiple times) for a repair, strung a barb wire fence for the goats, and did the usual morning goat milking and daily radio shows. While the new electronic shop/lab is still under construction.
And I daresay any 20 year-old that was mature enough to appreciate what my other wives know already would find out that some things improve with age and experience, and that many thirty year-old 'men' might never figure out.
Honestly, though, I've met very few that have the kind of intellect and maturity I prefer even in their 30s...
That's quite a broad statement
Where is this stated in the Bible?
Are you basing it on the fact that everyone (apart from Joshua and Caleb) over the age of 20 perished in the wilderness?
That is an example of one situation where everyone over 20 was held accountable, but doesn't necessarily indicate that people under 20 are never held accountable.
Maybe there is something else I am missing.
The youths that scorned the prophet Elisha in 2nd Kings 2 were held accountable for their sin.
QEDThat's quite a broad statement
Because it gives too many a false sense of security, eternal security.
Man_in_the_Middle
Seasoned Member
In the book of numbers, only the men were counted... The cutoff was the age of 20.
If 20 is the "age of accountability" for men, what is the age of accountability for women? Men are allowed to marry before the age of 20, so they will have responsibility for the actions of their wives and children.
It doesn't make sense to me that a man can be held accountable yet not be of an age of accountability. Can someone please explain?
It doesn't make sense to me that a man can be held accountable yet not be of an age of accountability. Can someone please explain?
OK so another one is Abraham who was 140 when he married Keturah and another one is Issac who was 40 years old, and Rebekah didn't give birth until he turned 60, so by my math (20 years), she was likely half his age, especially since she is called a young woman or a girl or a damsel, when Abraham's servant met her. The interesting thing about Isaac and Rebekah, is that God arranged that marriage, so if a woman says that she will never marry a man who is twice her age, she very well might be saying "No" to God. Of course, when a woman refuses to marry a polygamist, the same thing can be said.