One view has a high regard for the veracity of God's claims about Himself and His ability while the other does not.
I appreciate this very much. I think it is important that we always remember His thoughts and ways are higher then ours.God is always to be exalted in His perfect holiness.
It is a human tendency to recreate God with limits that perhaps our own humanity impose on our thinking. Some of my family believe that God is all loving kindness and any "negative" ( in their view) used in relationship to Him (like jealousy or anger) is just there because translators inserted it, projecting that "negative" aspect onto our God that is actually perfect without it. Some also see Him as being bound by His own laws. (Mormon doctrine has God actually saying "I the lord god am bound when ye do what I say, but when ye do not what I say ye have no promise") The bible in contrast has Him keeping His covenants always, even when the people did not, and yet also walking on water and stoppibg the sun. It also has Him declaring the end from the beginning. I have some family with loose screws that think all prophesy is conditional. But then no prophesy would be worth a tinker's darn if that were true, because it all might change before those thousands of years have passed.
I think that the verse that says "He is not willing that any should perish" begs the question, who can thwart His will? I have a hard time thinking anyone would truly will themselves dead....though some mentally ill do. Then too we don't allow youths to contract, because they lack the full comprehension of an adult. I don't believe any mortal can comprehend eternity and that is part of why I don't believe in punnishment that exceeds our comprehension.....especially as a lake of fire forever would be torture....something God never authorized. Chastisement yes, judgement yes, death perhaps, but not torture. Daniel says that when Michael stands up for his people the dead will be raised, some to Glory and some to shame.
I am inclined to think all sin has been paid for, and the advantage to understanding that and being baptized is life NOW, not just later after you're raised to understanding.... and to the shame that would go with realizing all your sins. The transformation He works in lives is HUGE. You are blessed if you believe like Thomas after seeing, (after you are raised even??) But are more blessed if you believe now.
The wicked after all are outside the gates, and have their part in the lake that burns with fire.
I am certainly open to a better understanding. ...That is just where I am today.