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prayer for strength and better times

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Very rough week. Wife lost her job of 17 years. Company restructuring, just 3 let go. Wife, her boss, her assistant. I've been trying to buy a certain type of business for a very long time now, found the right one, made the deal, and had to back out due to wifes job loss. Can't commit to mortgage on my own. Heavy snows this week, should have/ could have stayed home but had work to get done.
(I hate this job, but I own it) 8 Year old daughter wanted me to stay home and play but I didn't, wife said she would. Wife got her ready and sent her out saying she would be out in a few minutes. Wife laid down, fell asleep, 90 minutes later relized daughter outside. Found her sitting on porch sobbing. Daughter couldn't get door open. Frozen tears on her sweater. I should have been there. A few minutes ago got dropped by lady we have been talking to for quite a while. Total suprize. As a 50YO couple we have no luck finding anyone good. If next week is like this don't know how I will get through it. Need prayers for strength and better times Potential ladies would be nice too but that would be asking a lot.
 
You are definitely in my prayers.

May the Lord comfort you and strengthen your heart this week.

Reflect on his promises and the HOPE that you have. I know right now things are hard and despair is lurking just around the corner, but don't give up brother. Hope in the Lord and trust in him . He will see you through. HE has a plan for you and it is a good plan, one that will give you a HOPE and a FUTURE.

Once again, I will be praying for you!
 
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I am so sorry to hear this, I do hope your wife finds a job soon and that you will soon be able to follow your dream.

Have faith, it will be ok.

((hugs))
 
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Regarding the loss of the job and the loss of the business that you wanted to buy... praise God. It was not the right time and He always watches over us. He most certainly has something different and more fulfilling in store for you and your family in your future. I love the country song ... "Thank God for unanswered prayers.

I also have to sit here and be completely amazed that your precious daughter was sitting on the porch and well! I have a seven year old daughter and eight year old son... oh my!! what trouble they could get into during an hour and a half without supervision! PRAISE GOD that your baby girl was on the porch with only frozen tears on her sweater! She was safely waiting rather than lost! Truly, that is such a blessing and I clearly see His protection over your family! What a love note from God to you and your wife... a little reminder that He is watching even when we cannot be!

The woman who left you... that is more than likely a good thing too. She obviously lacked commitment! Not a good thing to lack when stepping into a threesome relationship...and so much better for your children that she didn't change her mind a year into the relationship! All is well! Besides... women do change their minds! Maybe she will walk back into your life as quickly as she exited!

Tough times come and tough times go! Sometimes we have to look a little harder to see the blessings in our lives but they are always there! :D
 
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I must agree with Cat's!

Praise Him from whom all blessings flow.... What a hidden blessing to have your daughter sitting safely yet cold on your porch! It could have been MUCH MUCH WORSE!!!

I'm not an eternal optimist however I too can see the hidden Praise worthy items in your request!

I pray you will be able to FIND reasons to PRAISE and I pray God gives your strength to keep looking for the sliver lining!

P.S. Our SW walked out of our life several months back and is now safe at home here with her family where God desired her to be!
The old saying goes if you love something let it go and if it was meant to be it will come back to you!
 
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cats rocks!
Psa 37:23 The steps of a [good] man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.
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will you go through life thinking that the cup is half empty, or is it half full?
you hate you job, but many do not have a job to hate.
yes, we make mistakes, it is not His job to keep us from making them. but, as cats pointed out, you were blessed in that it could have been so much worse.
the story of joseph really blesses me. he had every right to live a victim mentality, but he chose to keep on doing his best. he succeeded beyond his wildest dreams.
my prayer for you is that you focus your desires on what the Almighty wants for you and your family.
 
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Update
Still no job for the wife. The business I have right now is a restoration business. Unfortunately all of us in the industry are getting old and there is no one to take our place. I’ve been here for too many years and am burned out. We recently found a wonderful lady 20 years my junior who wanted to apprentice in the business and join our family. She wanted everything that we wanted. Her 9YO daughter got along great with our 8YO daughter. She wanted more children. Both daughters were very vocal in agreement. We really felt that God had given us a gift. We had spent many hours on the phone and visited in person. This had gone far enough that we had just registered her daughter at the christian school my daughter goes to. She was to be here this Thursday for an extended visit. This morning I got my normal morning email from her and she broke off completely with us citing family issues. She deleted the email address she had been using and “unfriended” us from facebook. I really don’t understand Gods plan. Why give me the perfect lady and then snatch her away at the last minute.
 
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why would you blame G-d for removing her?

maybe she is under extreme attack from the enemy and, possibly only for a time, has secumbed. she may need your prayers more than ever right now.
and there is the possibility that she only seemed right for your family, but was not or the timimg was wrong.
let G-d be true and every man (including you and me) a liar.
 
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Steve
I feel that everything is his plan. I just don't understand. If I had written a spec on what our family needed she would have fit perfectly. I feel it was in his plan to put her here and in his plan to take her away. I don't know if I am just being tested, but if I am, how much more do I need to take? With her I saw the light at the end of the tunnel, but I think it's the freight train coming and I just don't know if I have the energy or the will to get out of the way.
 
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cordbuff said:
Steve
I feel that everything is his plan.
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then you are just going to have to make your peace with whatever He chooses to throw your way.
according to your own theology, you are choosing to complain against the choices that the Almighty makes for your life. ask the israelites how well that worked out for them.

personally, i would choose a more interactive theology. but that is just me :)
 
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My brother, I heartily say Amen to Steve's comments. God's gifts are always good and never for our damage! I shared this thought with my daughter when she admitted that she had messed up her son's airline ticket and he was missing his trip home, "More often than not our screw ups are God's providence in disguise". I really believe this, because God is true and we are fallible, dependent on Him. "In everything give thanks....".

John
 
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Sorry for your loss cordbuff. When folks are going through hard times I always think of Job. What was God's plan there?
 
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Dear Cord,

Yours is not the only family that has gone through a similar situation. There are at least two families here on the forums that have gone through nearly identical scenarios, so much so, in fact, that when you described the situation, I wondered if this same person hadn't done this before.

It is unfortunate, Cord, that there are those people out there that feed on drama, creating problems in the lives of others. However, I have seen it happen before.

Sorry if I sound a bit cynical (just so you know, it is out of character for me), but experience has been a hard teacher for some of us.

Blessings,

Doc
 
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I, too, want to second the thoughts of Cat's Curiousity (a wise woman) and steve (a wise man). :)

At the same time, I want to extend a hug of sympathy or empathy or whatever the right variant is. Hurts, I know.

The silver lining IS there. Comfort your heart with the promise that you will get to see it. But be patient with it as well -- you usually can't see the silver lining until the rain (tears) stop.

DocInMo also has a valid point, except that I THINK the false person he was referring to stopped short of visiting in person. You said that had been done -- extensively.

So I too want to offer the encouragement that prayer is your greatest tool right now. Remember that we are in a SPIRITUAL WAR. One battle is to destroy or prevent Biblically based and operating Families. Let us all join in praying that if what is happening here is NOT God's providence but a skirmish in the battle, that the devil be soundly defeated!
 
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after considering this for another 2.5 seconds it occurred to me that when the primary family sees the additional wife as being the answer to any of its problems or needs, there is going to be an added pressure placed on the relationship that may sink it from the git-go.
what i am trying to say is that if the incoming wife sees her perfomance in alleviating the needs of the family as being her primary value to that family, the fear of failure to "measure up" and fulfill those expectations may be a bit much for her.
 
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Thanks All
When I say shes the answer It's that she shares all our values and has some training in the type of business that I own. Iv'e been in this business far too long and am burned out. I don't need someone to take it over, just someone to pat me on the back and keep me going. Also I just need someone to just sit at the front counter and talk to the customers so I can work. She would be very capable of this. Wife 1 however with no training could not. She answered an email this morning saying that she is not going to change her mind. I am really hurting right now.
 
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Cordbuff,

I can understand where you're coming from. It must hurt an awful lot right now. It may be helpful to remember that God's ways are so much higher than our ways, and what seemed to be the perfect match, from human reasoning, may not have been as perfect as it looked. When God puts families together, he doesn't always match them up in a way that makes sense to us humans. He does, however, do all things well, and you can rest in that assurance.

Katie
 
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