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Sister Wives...

Scarecrow

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I just came across this interview that was done on the Today Show by the family that is the focus of the TLC program "Sister Wives" that premiers Sunday night, and thought it was a very good interview...

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp ... 8#39322168

Ladies and gentlemen...there is more and more exposure to the good side of plural marriage...let us be strong and of good courage. The day will soon dawn that Biblical Marriage will be a recognized reality in our society.
 
Greetings & Blessings!

Good afternoon Scarecrow! I did see this interview this morning on the Today Show. Merideth Baxter of the Today Show went very easy on the family, when interviewing them. Mostly light hearted conversation, mixed with the same old questions of jealousy issues, scheduling of nights with dh, etc. I was surprised that there weren't any harder hitting questions such as the usual under age forced marriages, abuse issues, etc that are always brought up.

At the same time though, thankful that these annoying questions that normally only truly apply to the "cults" that practice pm, weren't brought up with this family. No offense, but even though this family is of the Mormon religion, they for the most part seem happy, balanced and adjusted. They showed a real "Godly united working family/team picture of their family." I'm hopeful/prayerful that this new TLC Sisterwives series that I brought up a month ago here, will encourage other " Truly Christian based families," to come out and share their life stories/testimonies as well. That would also help to disban the false belief that pm is just among all " those cult/Mormon families," as most the secular media portrays pm.

I was impressed with what the family shared, with the little time that they had to do so. Kody the husband seemed to be very calm, balanced, supportive, respectful and loving with all of his wives. It was a comforting & noble witness he put out that he was not the "usual abusive/perverted/controlling husband," that the media also always portrays all pm husbands to be. I look forward to the show, and through it pray that God's will be done in it all. God's Blessings of His Peace, Comfort, Wisdom, Discernment & Love!

F.S. :)
 
Thank you for the link, I thought they came across as a sane and attractive family, let's hope the producers don't do a butchering job on them to make them seem unstable (you know what selective editing is like). I look forward to watching the series.

Bels
 
Thanks all for the information about this show. I can't wait to watch it tomorrow! Hopefully, it will open communications to the outside world to view pm in a more positive light. I wonder if we'll hear preaching from the pulpit at church next Sunday about not watching it?
 
I really want to watch it but don't have cable tv right now. We are getting ready to move, so turning on Cable at this point isn't an option. Can anyone record it on a DVD for me? I would need the first three episodes for sure.
 
Trying to piggy-back a bit on the publicity, I added this Google ad, with keywords "TLC sister-wives show".
(If you look, don't click, it costs us! :-) )

TLC's 'Sister Wives' show
Plural family not just for Mormons.
A Loving, Christian approach:
www.BiblicalFamilies.org
 
This is EXACTLY what we need. More people to stand up, stand out, and show the truth. I love how the wives do most of the talking. lol. ITs great!!! My wife said she would be willing to do the same if we had a second or 3rd wife. Hes better than me though. I dont think I could do 4 wives. hahaha
 
I was very happy to get to see the pilot episode last night. I put my daughter in the bath early and my hubby took over her bed-time routine! (and it only took him an hour, and bribing her with a glow stick, to get her to sleep, new record lol) We dont have cable (poor college students) so I convinced a friend of mine to let me watch it at her apartment. The best part was that the show generated conversation and she asked me a bunch of questions. It was a very light hearted, but positive conversation.

She enjoyed the show too, so we may have a few more "date nights"! haha.... That is if last nights bed-time adventure didnt permanently scar the hubby!

For those that didnt catch the show, I saw a couple good clips on the TLC website.
 
Well I came here because of sister wives. I have to confess I am trying to wrap my head around several ideas, many of these have threads here:
  • Why is poly-marraige still illegal? I mean in relation to gay marriage.
    The whole religious side?
    Being a messianic Jew, I am even more conflicted on this issue. Jews for the most part are highly mono.
    Why does it seem there are a bunch of 'messianic' 'torah' based Christians on here?
    And a pile more of questions, that I will get answered.

I am highly analytical and want solid and satisfying answers that are logical and coherent. The answers need to stand up to my scrutiny which is touch as I can find holes in most arguments. I guess seminary caused me to look for to many questions.

Have a most happy day
 
Welcome to Biblical Families Macike!

One of the best places to start might be at the "Links" page right here at Biblical Families:

http://biblicalfamilies.org/links

You will find numerous other resources as well. I would suggest that you keep your microscope in your pocket for now and try to see the big picture first, then narrow in on things as your curiosity directs you to them. If you are anything like many others that discover this subject, and delve into their scriptures with an open mind, you will quickly realize what many of us already know...best wishes to you in your research.
 
Scarecrow said:
One of the best places to start might be at the "Links" page right here at Biblical Families:

The best (at least for me) was the book by Tom Shipley:
Man and Woman in Biblical Law
. Not to bad of a book. He does a great job of interacting with the literature that is out there. My kind of book, as one who hates bumper sticker theology.
 
Well I came here because of sister wives. I have to confess I am trying to wrap my head around several ideas, many of these have threads here:

Why is poly-marraige still illegal? I mean in relation to gay marriage.
The whole religious side?
Being a messianic Jew, I am even more conflicted on this issue. Jews for the most part are highly mono.
Why does it seem there are a bunch of 'messianic' 'torah' based Christians on here?
And a pile more of questions, that I will get answered.


I am highly analytical and want solid and satisfying answers that are logical and coherent. The answers need to stand up to my scrutiny which is touch as I can find holes in most arguments. I guess seminary caused me to look for to many questions.

Have a most happy day

Greetings brother and Welcome.

Your questions require a more thorough response than what I can give herein. But I urge you to go to the Biblical Families Teaching Articles section of this website. You'll find many good resources there that will be an aid to you I believe. Here is the link to that section:

viewforum.php?f=57

All of the articles therein come from those us with either extensive Bible college training or even with advanced doctoral degrees in the respective field of theology. So some of your questions, especially about what we believe in regard to the Law of Moses and the Law of Christ can be seen there which applies to your questions about "Torah based" Christians.

I'll provide a brief response to a few of your statements here though.

Why is poly marriage still illegal in light of the fact gays are now being offered marriage rights?
This has much to do with the fact of two keys: (1) Postmillennial ideology that built a nation that at first attempted to build a theocratic society (review the Puritan and Pilgrims in early colonies). (2) The marriage license ideology that we as a nation on the whole adopted which allows government to now define and govern those who carry the terms husband and wife.

Liberty to choose how one defines and builds their own family has been a tough battle. Liberty in and of itself has also been tough. It was not until the Baptists in 1789 convinced Thomas Jefferson, James Madison, and others to grant the 1st Amendment that we had true religious liberty. To this day the libertarians and the purists still battle it out, just like in the days of the Puritans and the Pilgrims with the likes of Roger Williams. Coupling that with Postmillennial replacement theology that drifted here still from Rome through the Puritan and Pilgrims (who had not reformed enough), along with an ascetical view of man and sexuality, such a combination set a foundation of monogamy only for the country. To this day it still exists though it is beginning to change. The Purists and Constantinian politicians who embrace ascetical ideas of sex and marriage want to keep monogamy and reject any other union except heterosexual unions, and the ones who favor consensual liberty favor allowing individuals to define how they unite and build their own families according to their own consciences so long as promises made are kept (civil law) and no physical force or coercion is used (criminal law). Then, of course, you have people in between with a mixture of the two ideas and a lack of consistency in how it is applied to various scenarios which eventually produce conflicting legislative laws.

As for the religious side I'm not sure what your question is. I will simply say that a strict and literal reading of Scripture yields the conclusion that polygyny does not run contrary to God's teachings.

As for the Jews. Jewish theology did not embrace monogamy until the 800's. So really the monogamy only position is a modern development among Jewish leaders. Historically they have not been this way. At another time if you desire I can post for you the historical quotes on this and show you the exact Rabbi who introduced this change in the 800's. And, one must never forget that a Jew today who does not believe in Christ is without the Holy Spirit and thus he or she suffers from 1 Cor. 2:14 where the Bible says a lost person cannot understand the spiritual things of God.

Why does there seem to be a bunch of Torah based Christians here?
The subject of polygyny often draws people who are tenacious about living out the specifics of the Mosaic Law as that law code in the Bible speaks much about the subject. Some feel that this is the best place to draw their support for the doctrine. However, the NT is just as plain and clear on this subject when one rightly understands the nature of Christ and his relationship/symetry to his body which is composed of multiple members. This too is discussed in the articles in the teaching forum section. Furthermore, as Christians we recognize that Christianity grew out of Judaism. Though many of us have the freedom of conscience not to obey every specific or the Mosaic Law in totality we also recognize that not all believers in Christ have this freedom of conscience and thus we gladly welcome those whose conscience calls for them to follow some of the Mosaic Laws, customs, regulations, etc. What we do not welcome is any person demanding that a believer in Christ MUST practice any specific Mosaic Law as NT believers are under the Law of Messiah/Christ (Hebrews 7; Gal. 6:2). NOR on the other hand do we welcome believers under the Law of Christ to demand that a person MUST forsake the customs and law of Moses as that too is a holy law code and of God. They have freedom in Christ to practice the law whereas we in Christ also have freedom from the Mosaic Law since the Law of Christ is now the primary and direct authority over us. So long as a person is not obeying the law to be saved or sanctified for righteousness then the person is free to follow any custom of the Mosaic Law unless specifically altered by Christ or an apostolic writing. Again, there is a full article on this in the teaching sections forum titled: The Law of Moses and the Law of Christ. In short, we would for the most part agree with the position of the Association of Messianic Congregations on this subject (see the link to their site in the article). As a Messianic Jew I urge you to examine their links and their teachings as they are a solid, theologically well trained, and balanced group of Messianic Jews who love Christ and his Word deeply. I think you may find a good resource in them in certain areas.

Please feel free to ask away with any other questions you might have. If you have any question you would like to have answered off the public forums then please email us: staff@biblicalfamilies.org

Dr. Allen
 
Dr. K.R. Allen said:
As for the Jews. Jewish theology did not embrace monogamy until the 800's. So really the monogamy only position is a modern development among Jewish leaders. Historically they have not been this way. At another time if you desire I can post for you the historical quotes on this and show you the exact Rabbi who introduced this change in the 800's.

I think you mean Rabbi Gershon in the 11thc. that was a prohibition for Ashkenazi Jews only. Sephardim and Mizrahim were not under his authority.

regards,

Bels
 
macike said:
Well I came here because of sister wives. I have to confess I am trying to wrap my head around several ideas, many of these have threads here:
  • Why is poly-marraige still illegal? I mean in relation to gay marriage.
    The whole religious side?
    Being a messianic Jew, I am even more conflicted on this issue. Jews for the most part are highly mono.
    Why does it seem there are a bunch of 'messianic' 'torah' based Christians on here?
    And a pile more of questions, that I will get answered.

I am highly analytical and want solid and satisfying answers that are logical and coherent. The answers need to stand up to my scrutiny which is touch as I can find holes in most arguments. I guess seminary caused me to look for to many questions.

Have a most happy day

Welcome here, and you will find that there are people from all walks and even many different denominations and non-denominational structures here. I too am a Messianic Jew, as are others, and if you ever want to talk, or ask questions, feel free to ask. There are many wonderful people on here that truly exude the Love of the Father. I will preface this next statement as saying that I may be wrong, but there are many here who are not as comfortable with their views on Biblical Marriage/Scriptural Polygyny being known as others such as myself. I am one of the more outspoken ones here, although there are times when I do not say much on this forum. But I have a journalistic site where I post pro-polygyny posts and even do my best to stand up and defend brothers and sisters attacked for their beliefs (http://mrscottyl.blogspot.com) an internet podcast that is the sister to the site, where we also lift up people and organizations, such as what we did here for Doc and Biblical Families, as well as trying to educate the public on what a Scriptural Polygynyst really is (http://thatpolygamyshow.info), and even a scriptural family based site where we do discuss polygyny, but also a whole lot more, and to where there are many people here that are also there (http://scripturalpatriarchs.wackwall.com). And people know my name, and even call me by that (as well as a lot of other nasty things from those who are anti-polygyny). Make yourself at home, and there is never a stupid question. If I can do anything for you, just let me know.

Scott
 
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