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Too high of standards?
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Naw, Lulu. Deut's husband is young enough, and his second wife is old enough. They're all 3 good folks. Friends of mine, whom I HIGHLY respect. Those weren't the reponses he was getting from his second wife, but from fellow "Christians" who were seriously missing the pouint of PM. Happens all the time.
You're NOT obligated to go marry whomever announces that he wants to marry you. You are NOT an inanimate object, and the little boy "I saw it FIRST so its MINE!" does NOT apply.
Neither are you restricted from marrying an older man if that were where your heart led in collaboration with God.
This is an area where God has NOT legislated appropriate choices (though if your choice was 12 there would be other problems ...), so your free will is free to choose. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for choosing.
It is perfectly logical for a woman in her 20s to want to marry someone of similar age, and to explore the adventures of life and learn their lessons together. There is logic in other choices as well, for other people.
So go for it. Select someone who pretty well matches up with what you seek. Ask God for guidance, by all means. But the Word says that He'll grant you the desires of YOUR heart, not the desires of whoever happens to first say, "Hubba, hubba! I want me some o' DAT!"
Sheez, Louise! *chuckle* Let's give God credit for being nicer than THAT! *grin*
You're NOT obligated to go marry whomever announces that he wants to marry you. You are NOT an inanimate object, and the little boy "I saw it FIRST so its MINE!" does NOT apply.
Neither are you restricted from marrying an older man if that were where your heart led in collaboration with God.
This is an area where God has NOT legislated appropriate choices (though if your choice was 12 there would be other problems ...), so your free will is free to choose. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for choosing.
It is perfectly logical for a woman in her 20s to want to marry someone of similar age, and to explore the adventures of life and learn their lessons together. There is logic in other choices as well, for other people.
So go for it. Select someone who pretty well matches up with what you seek. Ask God for guidance, by all means. But the Word says that He'll grant you the desires of YOUR heart, not the desires of whoever happens to first say, "Hubba, hubba! I want me some o' DAT!"
Sheez, Louise! *chuckle* Let's give God credit for being nicer than THAT! *grin*
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LOL!!!!
Lulu, I'm afraid we both must have misunderstood one another! I would have had the same reaction to such a disgusting e-mail. And I'm sure (unfortunately) that there are plenty of opportunistic men online who are taking advantage of these types of situations.
I was simply trying to encourage single women that there are actually Godly men who are interested in a polygamous relationship for righteous reasons. My husband's reactions were not from women. On the contrary, they were from Christian? men who didn't understand the biblical concept of polygyny.
I guess we had a pretty smooth road when it came to finding a second wife. I would base that solely on my husband's desire to do ONLY what God desired. He honestly was so afraid of messing up what he knew the Lord had called him to, that he was extremely cautious and careful to seek the Lord in each step that we took.
I wouldn't expect or even encourage a young lady to marry a much older man unless the Lord clearly seemed to be opening those doors. So, please forgive me for misunderstanding what you were trying to say, and I hope I'll be more clear the next time we correspond!
Lulu, I'm afraid we both must have misunderstood one another! I would have had the same reaction to such a disgusting e-mail. And I'm sure (unfortunately) that there are plenty of opportunistic men online who are taking advantage of these types of situations.
I was simply trying to encourage single women that there are actually Godly men who are interested in a polygamous relationship for righteous reasons. My husband's reactions were not from women. On the contrary, they were from Christian? men who didn't understand the biblical concept of polygyny.
I guess we had a pretty smooth road when it came to finding a second wife. I would base that solely on my husband's desire to do ONLY what God desired. He honestly was so afraid of messing up what he knew the Lord had called him to, that he was extremely cautious and careful to seek the Lord in each step that we took.
I wouldn't expect or even encourage a young lady to marry a much older man unless the Lord clearly seemed to be opening those doors. So, please forgive me for misunderstanding what you were trying to say, and I hope I'll be more clear the next time we correspond!
redwingsfan0024
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Lulu,
I think that you should have high standards. This is a huge decision and should not be taken lightly. The people that respond in a nasty manner are the reasons it is so important to have those standards. Good luck on your journey.
I think that you should have high standards. This is a huge decision and should not be taken lightly. The people that respond in a nasty manner are the reasons it is so important to have those standards. Good luck on your journey.
