Yeah, I don't think there is much in common between the parable and the Psalm apart from a plurality of virgins and a wedding. The parable is a warning, the Psalm is a celebration and worship/praise.
I get the intent of what you are saying
@Verifyveritas76, however my understanding is that a "free woman marriage" is something of an oxymoron - No one is ever free. The concubine discussion gets so confusing because we want to compare slave and free when both wife(his woman) and concubine belong to a
baal. In the faith, you either belong to sin and death or belong to the Lord, but there is freedom in Christ, yet submission comes first. Similarly, if a wife(woman) thinks she doesn't belong to her husband then she is a slave to her own idolatry, she still isn't free.
The only difference I can see between a wife and a concubine is inheritance, and this seems to be the key. The difference lies not in the what, but is inferred in the why: A wife receives an inheritance via her offspring because she is devoted to the purpose and vision of her husband; they receive it so that they can continue to carry out the patriarch’s God-given purpose after his death.
While a concubine does serve her husband during his lifetime, her priorities or maturity preclude her from furthering her husband's calling after his death. She may have entered the family as a maidservant or captive, have been taken in as a widow, orphan, or come from abandonment or poverty. She has all the rights and responsibilities as any other wife(woman), but not an inheritance de jure. This is simply because in all these situations her ability to function as a wife (
his woman) could not necessarily be predicted from the reputation of her father, it had to be proven by her.
A concubine can become a wife and be given an inheritance if she later proves her assimilation to her husband's purpose, it is not necessarily a permanent title (e.g. all twelve sons of Israel receive a blessing and inherit). Inheritance follows responsibility; obedience to your lord reaps delegated authority from him.
We read a beautiful statement in Hosea 2:14-17 that describes this transition: "
Therefore, behold, I will allure her, and bring her into the wilderness, and speak tenderly to her. And there I will give her her vineyards and make the Valley of Achor a door of hope. And there she shall answer as in the days of her youth, as at the time when she came out of the land of Egypt. "And in that day, declares the Lord, you will call me 'Ishi/My Husband,' (my man, a term of endearment
) and no longer will you call me 'Baali/My Husband.' (my owner - a term of deference
). For I will remove the names of the Baals from her mouth, and they shall be remembered by name no more."
The point of this is not that God is no longer a Ruler and Owner, but that his people have assimilated to his will and live for his glory to the point where ownership is not a stumbling block to them and they can truly just enjoy him. It is a distinction in what we call him, how we relate to him, not in who he is. This is the threshold between a concubine and a wife. It is something both earned through obedience of the woman, and called forth through love from the husband. This is how we can be both slaves to Christ and freed in him. "
For he who was called in the Lord while a slave, is the Lord's freedman; likewise he who was called while free, is Christ's slave."
Notice God's purpose to remove the names of the other Baals. When we stumble over the lordship of God or husband, we cannot cast it aside without serving someone or something else - often our own selves; a quest for "freedom" will always result in slavery to another, and one whose yoke is not easy, and burden not light. But when we answer to God, as a true wife to her husband, the other masters and idols are removed.
So the reality of whether a woman is free or not resides in her heart, the title is otherwise irrelevant. She is freed through submission but in bondage when exercising her will outside of her husband's purpose. The same goes for your faith.
True ownership without submission is impossible. When you submit, you assert the ownership of the one you submit too. When you disobey that same person, you claim independence from them (but always submission to something else: sin, self, idol).
How does a husband (or Christ) love his wife as his own body if she functions like she doesn’t belong to him? He may love her, but it cannot be as
his own flesh if she is not
his own. She will be missing out on the fullness of his love. The same can be said for all those in Christ "because we are members of his body" Eph 5:30.
So from both those passeges, we can loosely attempt to identify inheritance by heart status from the virgin's actions, and concubinage does not seem to be in view in either. In the Psalm, they come underneath the king with joy and gladness, and will be given sons, which prophetically alludes to inheritance, so I would identify them as future wives. In the parable, the wise virgins show their commitment by bringing extra oil, so they have a heart for the groom's purpose and could also be considered wives. The foolish are locked out, so that's that.