NeoPatriarch said:
chris said:
Regarding an earlier statement about the flesh, God created sex and said it was good.
Look, that is not even a good paraphrase of scripture.
Neither is it an improper conclusion. He looked at ALL of His creation, including sex, and called it good.
NeoPatriarch said:
You are still talking about sex. Woman was called good. Certainly not just for sex. Take a look women are real people with real emotion and real needs. To treat them any less is certain to create tragedy and drama.
No-one disputes this, Robert. The point of THIS particular thread of discussion, however, is that some try to EXCLUDE sex. See the title of the thread. Some, usually wives, try to spiritualize the whole thang and DENY the real emotions and real needs of the real people of the female persuasion who need a husband.
We are not here saying to go find another wife so as to get your freak on. From everything I can find, having more than one wife is a whole lot more about responsibility well executed than it is wild eyed sex swinging from chandeliers with hordes of horny nubile women. Good grief!
No, the point in this particular thread is simply a refusal to objectify women on the opposite ditch. What do I mean? We're all aware of the "middle of the road" concept, right? The idea that God's way is BALANCED, that it goes down the middle of a road, so to speak. And that the devil doesn't care whether he gets us off into a ditch on the right hand or on the left. He just wants us wrecked in the ditch, rather than making progress down the road. Fair enough?
Ok, in this analogy, a wholesome, healthy husband-wife relationship will constitute our definition of the middle of the road. And travel or progress down that road would include accepting the entirety of an additional relationship, if God so chooses, directs, and provides.
What, then, are the ditches? On one side we have objectifying women as primarily objects of sexual lust, thus denying their personhood beyond sexuality. But the ditch on the other side is equally a ditch. It again splits the woman up and denies her total personhood. How? By DENYing her God-given, Life-driven sexuality.
Is this not clear? Any attitude, any policy, which seeks to deny or cut out some valid portion of a person's life is NOT of God. God created us in our totality, and He created us balanced.
"Well, but we CAN help out widows and orphans without marrying them, and having sex with the widow." True. But in so doing, you are NOT addressing her widowhood, nor her children's state of orphans. You may be addressing their state of hunger, or nakedness, or need for a roof or warmth or light or transportation. Maybe even a certain degree of their need for companionship and social interaction. But you have NOT addressed their need to BELONG. You have NOT addressed the core issues addressed in James 1:27. Those are only adequately addressed by MARRIAGE and ADOPTION, with ALL that those actions imply.
NO slicing and dicing of men OR women, their personalities, emotions, needs, etc. Jesus came to save us, to restore us to holy WHOLENESS, in all three dimensions -- spirit, soul AND body!