sicouple
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sweetlissa said:Steve,
My OP was about MOTIVATION and making excuses for marrying someone. I know people need each other. That is a natural part of any relationship. My intent was to get people to think about their motivation for marrying people. Someone else said it very well, that no one needs excuses to marry their first wife. Everyone just understands that people get married and they don't need an excuse.
I simply want people to be honest about why they want a second or other wife.
Just for giggles, have any of the people on the board married someone to "help her?" If so, how did that go?
SweetLissa
I think I know the direction you were trying to go, it may have went a bit off the rails and seemed to be coming down hard on people who recognizance they have a need in others. That is not an easy conclusion to come to and it makes it a lot harder for those who have reached it if they feel people think they are weak once there.
But getting back to what I believe was your intent, I agree. Husbands should not use this as an excuse to marry someone. I have never seen taking either of my wives as a burden. I know what they have to offer, greatly exceeds any hardship. I see very little reason to even point out any hardship they cause other then when trying to mutually solve a problem. We have to remember, lifting ourselves up is not the same as pulling another down. The end result can sometimes feel the same because your on more of an equal playing field but the one is a positive while the other is a negative.