@MemeFan, this is one of those times when you need to listen to and learn from the experienced men here.
C'mon, you speak with very disagreable person.
Listen more experienced people doesn't work on me. What matters is who understands reality better?
The thing that separates humans from animals is that we are rational. An animal "thinks with the head in its pants", and has sex with whatever moves. A human controls his/her urges and makes rational, sensible decisions about what to do. A human that lives like an animal will ruin their life, while a human that uses his/her brain will be successful.
And......?
First, humans are mutual choice species. Both partners must choose each other. Men don't stick in anything walkable.
Being frank now:
Low mental capacity females are lonely females.
Second.
Let's go for core. My post has zero with sex itself. It's about mindset.
Let's look at thread title. What mindset will it push? Let's play safe, better safe than safe....let's not try anything and risk nothing. But is that good mindset, one providing best outcomes for us.
Best love advice I have ever received is also generally applicable. Stay in set. Don't give yourself leg. That's lady job.
In essence don't disqualify yourself.
Are forum members here disqualify themselves? Let's start with provision. I don't earn enough for two, so no second wife for me.
Now of you when barely surviving and wife informing you new baby is on way would conclude that solution is abortion. You would all conclude "I need to earn more".
You can use same logic for second wife.
Thirdly, reason I mentioned head in pants is because situation is simple for him. He knows what he wants and job of head above is think good way to goal and is attention on good female.
Problem with head above neck is tendecy to overanalyse and overthink. So end result is autogoal by head above neck.
Yes, we all feel the same fire that you refer to. But we bridle it and direct it in good directions. And through that end up enjoying it more than anybody who just gave in to it. Even just at the crudest level this is better - you may not realise that sex is teamwork and gets better with practice. So if you can think carefully and set up a marriage that will last for 50 years, just think how much better the sex will be than if you'd just given in to foolish urges and never managed to have a relationship that lasted more than a decade.
Remember that arranged marriages tend to last much longer than romantic ones. There's an important reason for that - forming a marriage with the brain is far more successful than just following the head in your pants.
