Isabella said:
I have no idea what you are talking about Kathryn. I don't care what you think, believe or feel, that is up to you, you have the right to believe whatever you like, all I request is you not talk for ALL women and since I have been on this board, I have seen many strong opinions but I certainly have never seen any of these fine people assume they know what is in the hearts and minds of 50% of the human population. Yes, that is something I am passionate about.
B
Sorry, I don't know how to do multiple quotes so I've had to copy and paste. THIS is what I'm talking about...
In cases where a man is the sole provider for a child it may be a concern, but in most modern families, especially large ones, this is not the case.
In a group situation one would think the men involved would be as keen to share parental responsibility as do women in some polygamous families. However, It would not be, cannot be compatible to Biblical Patriarchy where it is assumed that children are, in effect, property of their fathers (which was indeed the case in the ancient world) therefore Paternity must be assured. This is hardly an issue with a group marriage by consent and no more complicated than any Polygamous situation (Poly relationships being more complicated by nature) Many men, and indeed most men I know, have raised children who are not theirs and doing a good job of it too.
Bels
Surely that is a problem with serial monogamist culture rather than Polygamous culture? Sharing responsibility is normal in families, men jumping from woman to woman to woman is the sick cultural norm (not meaning to absolve women from engaging in serial monogamy just sticking to the issue of men taking responsibility) If we aim to try to get back to or strive for a responsible and honest (and religiously valid, for some) form of relationships, this would not be an issue.
Bels
Ermm, Steve, perhaps I am not explaining it right.
My point is, he knows who his children are, they just may or may not share DNA with them.Any man who takes care of ALL the children, regardless of paternity, is a really responsible man and helping to maintain a stable household (ie multi parent/shared parenting) as opposed to a less stable or deprived household (single parent/serial monogamist).
Bels
Wow, nice of you to feel free to speak for all women!
I happen to know quite a few women with more than one man she calls husband. Very often they live together so she does not rotate households, the benefit is being able to live and share her life with the men she loves. You may not understand it, but for petes sake you can't claim to know what we all want. How arrogant!!!
B
It seems to me that you're saying multiple husbands is in some cases acceptable, even preferable to "seriel monogamy". I've spent some time trying to wrap my head around the idea, and it just doesn't make sense to me. If this is indeed what you're saying, I'm asking you for a further explanation. You're right to say I don't understand it. I don't understand the justification, the motive, any of it. Until I can - if I'm ever able to - I'll have to retain my gut reaction to polyandry.
And let me apologize again for my origional post. I shouldn't have said that.