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How Likeable Are You?

andrew

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I couldn't resist sharing this after seeing it in my inbox today. Never hurts to do a quick self-exam....

Ten Silly Things You Do That Make You Less Likeable

On a serious note, if you've been following the newsletter or here on the forum where I've talked about "extreme male brain", you know that I'm following the science of gender-driven brain differences, and that I believe the available data support the conclusion that men are generally better at systemizing information, and women are generally better at empathizing with others (the two bell curves overlap, but are shifted in opposite directions). It is part of that theory that "extreme male brain" is basically autism (all system and no empathy, leading to withdrawal), and while the data are not as developed, "extreme female brain" is basically psychosis (all empathy and no system, leading to breakdown).

A lot of us guys that 'get into it' in these discussions are pretty smart ("one smart fellow, he felt smart..."), and I wouldn't be surprised if some of us (many of us?) would if tested fall on the autism spectrum somewhere (that is, tending toward a high degree of ability with systemization, and a concomitant reduced capacity for empathy).

Consider this then a light-hearted call for more likeability and more empathy. We seem to be doing 'system' pretty well, but we could probably all (definitely including myself, but leaving an out for anyone who thinks this shoe is the wrong size...) work on listening more and defending territory less.
 
Me too! :eek: Always a work in progress....
 
A lot of us guys that 'get into it' in these discussions are pretty smart ("one smart fellow, he felt smart..."), and I wouldn't be surprised if some of us (many of us?) would if tested fall on the autism spectrum somewhere (that is, tending toward a high degree of ability with systemization, and a concomitant reduced capacity for empathy).

http://aspergerstest.net/aq-test/

31, baby
 
I'll play. Dead average (for men) at 17. I expected higher; I think as I've gotten older I've finally figured out some things about people that I just didn't get when I was younger. Being with three women and twelve children I think it counts as a survival skill....

NB - Simon Baron-Cohen, who developed that test with his colleagues at Cambridge’s Autism Research Centre, is the author of The Essential Difference: Male and Female Brains and the Truth About Autism, the book I referred to in a newsletter a few months ago.
 
26. About what I'd expect when looking at the explanation. It's very imprecise though because you don't really know how to answer many questions and just guess quickly.
 
I do find it fittingly ironic that Andrew posts a thoughtful reminder to work on our empathy, to which we respond by quantifying our degree of systemitization. :rolleyes:
ROFL!

I rest my case....
 
27 for me!

I think most of it is attributed to the social situation questions, not because I have trouble reading people. I can read people pretty well, but I just hate the "fake" aspects of social situations. I don't get overly nervous, I just like being myself, and dinner parties are a lot of folks talking about things I just don't care about and dressed in clothes I don't want to wear.

I've described myself as being selectively social...not anti-social :D

Did I just describe Aspergers or crusty old man?
 
18 here.
 
25

Crusty old Asperger?
 
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