I don't know what you mean here, I expect most others won't get it either. I assume you mean "taming the shrew", but still I think you need to explain this more if it's an important point.
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How to bring up Biblical marriage
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Well, sister is against. According to tone of report she is sabotaging potential marriage. If this continues, marriage won't happen.
@FollowingHim is right. I do mean "taming the shrew. For not familiar this is name of Shakespeare's novel. Central topic is one man marrying very disobedient woman and his successful effort into making her very obedient.
So, if sister passes "taming process" she won't be obstacle to marriage. Maybe, she even becomes third lady
I expect Yah-fearing women to not give them sex.
They will find it where they can, that’s non of my business. (Rosie Palm isn’t all that busy.)
I fully understand that and know full well about the cost. What I was referring to is being the man who attracts women. If a guy isn't around women and isn't attractive to women, he has a serious challenge ahead of him in finding any suitable wife; first, second, or more. Cheers
I would then recommend probing the deacons first. They make the decisions in a lot of churches. The pastor is usually beholden to them and the elders. Get enough of them on board and the pastor will be more likely to go along with it, especially when he holds meetings with them and sees where they are at.
That's fine and I agree. If it isn't relevant, why raise it? There are lots of things to discuss that are relevant to whatever is going on at the time. If the topic needs to be brought up, then it needs to be brought up.
And I thought there was another book that was using a play on words to mean something not so PG rated.Well, sister is against. According to tone of report she is sabotaging potential marriage. If this continues, marriage won't happen.
@FollowingHim is right. I do mean "taming the shrew. For not familiar this is name of Shakespeare's novel. Central topic is one man marrying very disobedient woman and his successful effort into making her very obedient.
So, if sister passes "taming process" she won't be obstacle to marriage. Maybe, she even becomes third lady
And when you do bring it up, bring it up in the form of a question.
Having said that, I was able to bring it up with the worship leader, and I am still in the choir and the orchestra where we attend. I guess he or I am the 1 out of 20. Well, in the church I was at previously, I brought it up with the worship leader and was still able to remain in the orchestra for quite a while.
She has. Including her sister who has sent me nasty messages. I don't care. It doesn't really bother me.
Our church is more of a pastor led church than deacon led church. They usually agree with whatever the pastor wants to do.
How did they react to you bringing up polygamy?
Sister could be your biggest problem now. Don't you see it? She has to be at least neutral or slightly negative.
Otherwise, she could constantly sip poison into her potential ears. Or your potential isn't willing to lose her sister for you.
And why is now idea of talking with pastor getting popular? Let's see. Already unpopular idea, let's try to spread it even futhrer. Won't this make spreader even more unpopular?
You need allies on your side and to neutralize opponents. If momentum is on opponent side, then even allies will change side. It's not rational for them to join you in becoming pariah.
I would go for opponent neutralization. I see no reason why even more people should know for your little adventure.
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I hope so brother but just be prepared for anything. Pastors freak out more about this than probably anyone.
like two or three motorcycles in the same parking spot? If she were a motorcycle, would she be a Honda(smooth and quiet) or Harley(boisterous and leaves a mess everywhere) or ?
Or a Vespa, sturdy and you can always count on it. Less fancy than a Honda?
They both disagreed. The former worship pastor was a bit more accusatory about it though. The current one, all he did was try to refute it with I Cor 7:2 and Matt 19:6. When I tried to explain that the two that are no longer two, but one flesh, he said that that was a stretch. I am not going to try to pursuade him with Scripture. That is for him to investigate, if he so desires to, and I am hoping and praying that he will.
See her sister is not the one who has to go through life without a husband. She may be the chief negativity instigator.
So they just completely ignore the mountain of other verses that are pro-polygyny and cherry pick one or two that supposedly support their case. Sounds about right.
Her entire family is being negative. We have been messaged nasty messages from more than one person. I don't really care anymore. Unless God changes hearts, there is really nothing I can do. I have provided ample scriptural basis for it. They don't want to listen. I did what I could. They can't refute scripture so they just go into other tangents and arguments that have nothing to do with it. Either that or make threats. I'm done.
There's nothing quite like one with two big....cylinders ( . )( . )
