@Transformator Reformator
I understand that certain Calvinists are proud intolerant legalistic jerks. Some are unregenerate. Others are immature.
They aren't the only ones.
There is plenty of nonsense to be found in the other Christian traditions as well.
Catholics, Orthodox, Lutherans, Wesleyans, Anabaptists, Messianics, and Pentecostals, all regularly throw people under the bus for disagreement (and especially for disagreement on polygamy and patriarchy).
Nonetheless, I generally hold what would be considered a largely Reformed or Calvinistic understanding of the Christian faith.
I much prefer to refer to myself as a simple Christian, or believer in, bondslave and follower of the Lord Jesus Christ. He is Lord. He Himself is my only Hope in life and in death. He has bought me with His blood. He is my Propitiation, and my Righteousness. I belong to Him, body and soul. I will dwell in the House of the Lord forever.
I believe there are many true saints of God to be found in other Christian traditions.
My mother who passed away in April was absolutely no Calvinist, but her deepest hope and confidence was in Jesus Christ. I am quite certain that she is with Him today.
To me, it seems like "Calvinism" boils down to salvation by God's Grace alone, through Christ alone, by His Righteousness alone, as revealed through Scripture alone, and that all the Glory is to God alone.
While I acknowledge the general truthfulness of TULIP, I prefer RC Sproul's RULEP to the traditional TULIP.
More importantly, I enthusiastically delight in, and fully embrace the Five Solas.
I was raised in the Wesleyan-Arminian tradition, and came to the Reformed view as an adult around age 30. I'm now 51, so I've had a fair bit of experience in both worlds.
For me, it was all about grace. Jesus saves.
I did choose Christ, and continue to choose Him, but only do so because God opened my eyes to see the Light of the World. He will keep me to the end.
Salvation is the gift of God, and no one can boast.