Deborah, if you love playing timbrel/tambourine and dancing in worship, you'll be ecstatic playing a drum set!
I say that, and then on reflection, I'm thinking it's more like this: If you really enjoy the rhythms of the tambourine, and then you dance as a part of that expression of music, then you'll quickly fall in love with the "whole body experience" of playing drums. If you really enjoy the dancing part of it, and basically play tambourine as a way to punctuate and enhance your dance, then you might find sitting on a drum 'throne' sort of confining. Best way to find out? Try it!
And they're not mutually exclusive. I am a multi-instrumentalist, and asking what instrument I like best is sort of like asking which of my children I love the most. If you like drumming, you can do it all as the mood strikes you or the spirit leads.
If you haven't already acquired a drum set before then,
plan to play some on my set in TN if we can arrange a time to do that. I can show you some stuff and you can see for yourself if it's something you're interested in pursuing.
You may not understand (yet) exactly what it means, but I can promise you that if what you're feeling is a desire to have "full freedom to majorly get into worship with all that is within me on a full drum set", you won't be disappointed. It is very freeing, and very powerful.
As far as women playing drums, try googling "women drummers" or "female drummers"; you might be surprised. Karen Carpenter and Meg White come to mind immediately as pop/rock drummers, and Sheila E and Cindy Blackman are
serious percussionists. Search for any of those names on YouTube and watch them play. Women can definitely hold their own behind a drumset.
There are also all kinds of hand drums and frame drums you can play as a way to develop beyond the timbrel (and yes, timbrelist is a word!) and head in the direction of a drumset. Try searching YouTube for "frame drum", "djembe", or "doumbek" and see if anything looks appealing. Happy drumming!