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The Wife of Noble Character​

A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
 
Solomon was speaking of a very specific woman. Hebrew has different structures when referring to hypotheticals than when referring to real people. The Proverbs 31 woman was a real, and very specific woman.
Ah, I’m glad that you understand that part correctly.
Who could possibly be living that life, and what was her real career?
 
The Proverbs 31 woman was a real, and very specific woman.

From everything I am finding the Eshet Ḥayil (Proverbs 31:10-31) refers to an ideal woman and not a specific woman.
 
From everything I am finding the Eshet Ḥayil (Proverbs 31:10-31) refers to an ideal woman and not a specific woman.
@scarlet25 is correct, it was a real woman.

Most don’t understand how she could have done it, and shoehorn her into being a conglomeration of women.
 
That would have been a real woman bordering on the supernatural! Wow!!!
Well, a lot of it is a bit like Elon launching rockets and catching them, he has people.
So did she.
 
The majority of women, single or married, work or obtain income in some way. Point me in the direction of how many men are able to completely financially support one woman, much less multiple with children. Most men have dreams and visions of "family businesses" and such, but very few times does this realistically happen profitably. Wouldn't it make more sense for women to put a career first right out of high school, even if they wanted a family? It's highly likely they will be employed the rest of their lives in some manner. An associate's degree only takes about 2 years of schooling, having one statistically means making more money than women without. A bachelor's degree can be obtained in 5 years and brings home about $40,000 more than women without. These women would be educated, have the ability to make money, and still only be in their lower 20s at the time of completion. Plenty of time for marriage and children. Except now instead of making minimum wage doing a job they hate while away from their children and families, they'd be able to work fewer hours for more pay with a career they've chosen. Essentially putting her career first is putting her family first.

Also, one of the "perks" often suggested to single women is that "they can have it all with plural marriage." Right??? They can have the husband, the children, and they can have the career. When did that narrative all of a sudden change? Do I need to search the forums and screenshot every time this is mentioned as a benefit. "Plural marriage is great for women because while you're at work, you can leave your children with a sister wife."
I am an exceptional man on many levels. I support a very large family on my single income.
 
I'm sure there are men who do. My issue lies with the ones who tell women they can't have both while at the same time dangling having both as a benefit for plural marriage. And with the ones bashing women for being career driven while also needing their income at the same time. It makes no sense.
 
However, if a couple brings on a plural just for her to work a job and support a financially insolvent couple then why should she join that family in the first place? Seriously, what's in it for her? She can work a full time job and focus on a career without bothering to give up her earnings to a married couple
I agree; that's sort of my point, you just phrased it better. My issue is that the same people who complain about women like that are the very same ones telling women like that how much plural marriage will benefit them. When in reality the opposite is likely true in many situations.
Conversely, if the married couple can't support themselves without needing the income of a plural then they're doing it wrong. They need to get their house in order before they invite someone else into it.

Finally, our priorities should always be in this order: God, family, country, self, career.

Putting a career first in your heart and in your priorities is a mistake.

Like I love flying, right? But note that I have a gig where I can come and go as I please. I do have a career but my family comes first. Always. If I ever have to choose between them my family will win every single time.
I agree with all of this ❤️
 
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I'm sure there are men who do. My issue lies with the ones who tell women they can't have both while at the same time dangling having both as a benefit for plural marriage. And with the ones bashing women for being career driven while also needing their income at the same time. It makes no sense.
The thing is that it is theoretically possible.
What I council against is pre-loading the future relationship/family with a commitment to debt and a career.
@MeganC ‘s example spells out how to live it out perfectly.
 
referencing Megan's quote regarding being financially solvent before adding #2 or #3, I don't believe that a family on government assistance is being "blessed by God". Welfare is not blessing.
 
There's a time and a place for a woman pursuing a career. The best example is the fact that I prefer to have my wife see female medical professionals, particularly midwives, obstetricians, gynaecologists etc. But in order for there to be female gynaecologists, some women have to actually train to be gynaecologists. Then work several years under others to gain enough experience to be able to actually do the job properly. Then once fully qualified, continue to work for at least a couple of decades to make enough of a contribution to society to make all that training worthwhile. That's a career that will take much of a lifetime - but someone has to do it.

Even nursing, in the present-day medical system, requires enough training to be a major long-term commitment.

Yet a woman should have children first, while she is fertile, and not let a career get in the way of her children, because trying to have children later is a recipe for failure. I tell my daughters "you can do anything you want with your life, but if one of those things is having a family, do that first".

Having said all the above - the examples I gave are only exceptions that prove the rule. Most women would be better off not pursuing what we would call a "career" in the usual sense, because once she's had children when young and fertile (early 20s), she'll be busy for many years being a mother of preschoolers, then only available for part-time school-hours employment while they're at school, so if she is really going to devote herself to motherhood won't be available for full-time employment until well into her 40s. That leaves only a couple of decades until retirement, not long enough for most high-flying career paths. She might gain qualifications but won't work in the field for many years. This is the practical norm for most women.

Don't expect everyone to fit in one box, there is room in the world for both career women and housewives. But the norm should be being a housewife, if the norm is being a career woman then something is wrong in society.
 
There's a time and a place for a woman pursuing a career. The best example is the fact that I prefer to have my wife see female medical professionals, particularly midwives, obstetricians, gynaecologists etc. But in order for there to be female gynaecologists, some women have to actually train to be gynaecologists. Then work several years under others to gain enough experience to be able to actually do the job properly. Then once fully qualified, continue to work for at least a couple of decades to make enough of a contribution to society to make all that training worthwhile. That's a career that will take much of a lifetime - but someone has to do it.

Even nursing, in the present-day medical system, requires enough training to be a major long-term commitment.
They need training within industry to reduce "time to expertise" from 5 years to 18 months.
 
The thing is, there will not be a lack of women becoming doctors, nurses and etc just because we are advocating for family first.
Plenty of women without our mindset will follow that path.

Shucks, I’ve known men that have had a career change and become nurses after raising a family.
 
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