I've known many people in my life who have successfully done this.
If you want normal, then stick with monogamy.
And vanilla ice cream.
And average intelligence.
And divorce.
And lack of discipline for your children.
And, for many people, abject loneliness -- even in marriage.
These are all, unfortunately, about as normal as normal can get.
There is always what most people do, and even in groups of people fellowshipping about something that is far from normal (such as, let's say, for example, something abnormal like polygamy), some will attempt to corral us to all be in the same pen. For me, finding out what most people do is far from being definitive information. It can be interesting, but it can also be a snare that has us worshiping Approval instead of God our Father and Jesus our Lord.
Most of those who practice polygamy according to Biblical principles will basically operate as dual monogamies, but some will not; they will be to one degree or another more intimate with each other as a group than that. It all depends on what the individuals mutually desire. This has been discussed many, many times in these forum threads, and thus far not even our most avid Scripture authorities have been able to find that elusive verse that forbids sexual intimacy between one woman and another who isn't that woman's near kin.
So, yeah, getting a bigger bed is always a godly option as long as only one husband is involved!
I have seen this line of thinking on here and disagree. Did your read my original post? To stick with monogamy is not to stick with boring, or divorce, or unruly children. That is absurd.
@Mbhs, you are disagreeing with something I didn't assert. I didn't assert that monogamy is boring. Did you read my post? I was questioning seeking normalcy; I was not questioning monogamy. For me, given that I've been entirely monogamous for the past 21 years, criticizing monogamy would be hypocritical. What would be
absurd would be to advocate that everyone must practice polygamy; the numbers would have no prayer of working out.
But I
will reassert that monogamy is
normal. Keep in mind that I was responding to someone who is
considering not only polygamy but a particular taken on how to do polygamy. That's the essence of why I wrote, "If you want normal, stick with monogamy."
I will also reassert that everything else I mentioned following that is
entirely normal. Divorce is
normal, given that over half of all marriages end in it. Unruly children is normal; you don't get out of your own house enough if you don't recognize that. Average intelligence is, by definition, normal. And loneliness these days is about as normal as it gets. Just ask your average (normal) mental health professional.
I don't consider vanilla ice cream to be boring (none of the rest were boring, so I assume that you made the leap to boring from vanilla), but given that it's the most-purchased flavor it has to be normal.
Please know that no one who lives inside my body is telling you what to do or think. You are free to believe in what you believe in and to behave as you wish to behave. I'm not opposed to monogamy. I'm opposed to the tyranny of the normal. The most common way people set themselves up for endless manipulation by those around them is to pursue approval from others, and that pursuit
always leads to conformity to the normal (to the extent that we're not conforming to the wishes of the low-sensation-seeker fascists who will tyrannize us any chance they get.
And I'm sincerely not even attempting to ruffle feathers in this instance. I'm not asserting that I'm above doing such a thing, but in this there was none of that. This whole lockdown nonsense, during which control freaks are handing out constricting dictates as if they were actually
legislators has me hyper-aware that our civil liberties need to be defended at every turn.
That's where I was coming from. Being normal is entirely acceptable if one chooses to be normal or in actuality
is normal, but ANY time I see someone reporting that they're wondering if they should knuckle under to the pressure to be normal (or, worse yet, if I see someone actively pushing that kind of pressure), I'm going to point out what I see as small-minded attempts to control others for no good purpose.
Just to be perfectly clear, though, I don't find anything about monogamy
boring!
