Just as God gives us the liberty to do whatever we please with our lives. Nevertheless, there will be consequences should we choose not to follow His instructions and decide to go our own way instead.
Consider the difference between what you are practically able to do
@Joshua, and what you ought to do.
One trap that Christians frequently fall into is confusing what should happen with what has actually happened. For instance, in scripture divorce is highly inadvisable and only permissible in very limited circumstances - to the point that it is simplest to think of divorce as entirely forbidden. Many Christians however jump from "divorce is forbidden" to "therefore it is not real". If a man and a woman have divorced, they do not recognise that divorce, and consider them still to be married. We run into that here most commonly when discussing whether someone can marry a divorced woman - some people consider her still to be married to her former husband and therefore it would be adultery to marry her.
But just because something is sinful does not mean it did not occur. Murder is sinful - nevertheless if someone does get murdered, they're still dead. Theft is sinful - nevertheless if something is stolen, it is now truly in the possession of the thief. And although someone may have divorced for a wrong and sinful reason, that doesn't change the fact that they're divorced.
So a woman
ought not to divorce her husband. That is absolutely clear in scripture. But that does not mean she
cannot divorce him.
And a father
ought to be concerned about who his daughter marries and guide her to a good husband. But that does not mean he
cannot choose to ignore this responsibility and leave her to make these decisions without his input.
I was wondering who stood up for me because I ended up getting banned or blocked by this guy. It's ok, I imagine that sort of thing happens a lot in those groups!