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Why I Believe Women Would Generally Be Better Off Seeking Polygamy

That is so raw with truth that I almost wonder if the author is intentionally exposing the 'other side.' If she can say those things and believe them to be right, e.g., 'Come on, Disney taught us this and Disney is never wrong', then she has bigger issues than poly.
 
It’s amazing how many women actually think that their Prince Charming is out there looking for them.
And they settle for some guy that can keep up the pretense long enough to fool them.


Men are like parking spaces, girls.
All the good ones are taken and all that is left are the Handicap ones.

The good news is that double-parking is encouraged.
 
eye4them said:
...and encourages the handicapped parking spaces to become non-handicapped parking spaces.
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Yup
The true capitalism of marriage in action. As opposed to the socialism of “everybody gets one”.
 
Asforme&myhouse said:
“Polygamy Will Never Work In This Generation
By Veronica Granja-Sierra, February 3rd 2015”

“...Needs Not Being Met
Women have an established list of needs that actually would be impossible to meet in a polygamist marriage. Constant affection, commitment, openness, honesty, financial, and emotional support are just some of the many needs a woman requires from her man. Every woman also loves to feel admired and put on a pedestal. They like to be appreciated and like to be affirmed of this constantly. It wouldn’t feel to nice knowing the man you love is off complimenting other women besides you now would it?

Exclusivity
For a young girl’s whole life, her one and only dream almost always consists of marrying her Prince Charming; the one man of her dreams who will love her and only her. Come on, Disney taught us this and Disney is never wrong. Women always tend to care about how exclusive their relationship is, whereas men are always just interested in sex and the number of women they sleep with. So although a polygamist marriage would satisfy these types of men, it would enrage women. After all, what Disney princess ever had to share her Prince or be a sister wife with another princess? None- because that’s not really a perfect, fairy-tale, happily-ever- after ending now is it?...”




These two paragraphs really sum it up, she wants to be WORSHIPPED as a goddess. She wants her man to submit to her. She wants to rule over him. This is what God said, in the Garden, would be her natural tendency, but it is not the behavior that God expects of woman who love Him and are called by His name.
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Just posted this to my FB for kicks and giggles
 
PeteR said:
That is so raw with truth that I almost wonder if the author is intentionally exposing the 'other side.' If she can say those things and believe them to be right, e.g., 'Come on, Disney taught us this and Disney is never wrong', then she has bigger issues than poly.
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Nah I think she actually believes all that. And that's scary because Disney's express purpose these days is to socially engineer girls.
 
I'm inclined to think that she does believe it, or rather is ongoing-trying to convince herself that she believes it; because it's what the culture expects her to believe, and what Disney has trained her to believe is right and normal. But I think that internally she knows it's junk, and thus why she says "Come on, Disney taught us this and Disney is never wrong."; which sounds rather mocking to me, and I think is her internal disdain for the idea of it showing thru, and I think this is somewhat agreed to by how she qualifies the statement "Polygamy Will Never Work In This Generation".

In the Christ/church, husband/wife metaphor, women image the church. We see women having this internal duality; on the one hand, just as the church lusts to rebellion against Christ; the woman also lusts to rebellion against her husband. And on the other hand, just as the church is drawn to Christ, who is a Ruler, and doesn't put us on a pedestal; the woman also is drawn to a man who images Christ, rulers her (Gen 3:16), and doesn't put her on a pedestal.

So I think she believes this junk enough to say it, but when given the choice between the guy who puts her on a pedestal, and the one who rules her, she'll chose the guy who rules her; each, and every time.

Now, I think it's an interesting commentary regarding the church. That is, a stronger drive to seek Christ, than to rebel against Him.
 
eye4them said:
But I think that internally she knows it's junk, and thus why she says "Come on, Disney taught us this and Disney is never wrong."; which sounds rather mocking to me, and I think is her internal disdain for the idea of it showing thru, and I think this is somewhat agreed to by how she qualifies the statement "Polygamy Will Never Work In This Generation".
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I think you're right. It's quite common for women to wholeheartedly embrace the current narrative on women/feminism/submission/etc and spout all the talking points while internally being at war with themselves on the idea because their nature is in rebellion against what social pressure requires them to say. Eventually though many come around on it and embrace their true selves. Sometimes they find this themselves. Often though a man leads them to it.
 
I think polygamy would benefit women who are in relationships with abusive men. If a man is like that, then a woman can leave such a toxic relationship and be with a married man who is not abusive and knows how to treat a woman with respect. Do you guys agree with this statement?
 
sun said:
I think polygamy would benefit women who are in relationships with abusive men. If a man is like that, then a woman can leave such a toxic relationship and be with a married man who is not abusive and knows how to treat a woman with respect. Do you guys agree with this statement?
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The idea of a woman leaving a marriage to go to another marriage for whatever reason is not really a benefit of PM or anything else, except describes a tragic thing.

Relationships fail and once they do, and the marriage relationship broken, there can be hope for a woman to find a loving husband in a plural relationship after everything has been said and done. But that's a rocky road and not really a 'benefit' of PM, more a possibility.

( I acknowledge there are some here that view a divorced woman as off limits to a plural family, I just don't hold that view.)
 
sun said:
I think polygamy would benefit women who are in relationships with abusive men. If a man is like that, then a woman can leave such a toxic relationship and be with a married man who is not abusive and knows how to treat a woman with respect. Do you guys agree with this statement?
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No. Our focus is on helping men become not-abusive.

The view that "that other man is bad for his wife, she'd be better off with me" is arrogant, prideful, and comes purely from Satan. It is a temptation that Satan uses against polygamy-minded men in all generations. Look at where many of Joseph Smith's wives came from (I think about a dozen of them were the wives of other men who he took as he claimed God wanted him to, or he'd be better for them, or whatever). This is how Satan takes one detail of Godly marriage (polygamy), and twists it into a weapon that can destroy marriages by encouraging divorce, and discredit all polygamy-minded conservative Christians by associating polygamy with this.

Do not give this temptation the slightest toehold in your thinking. It comes straight from the enemy and will destroy your life and the lives of many around you.
 
Cap said:
The idea of a woman leaving a marriage to go to another marriage for whatever reason is not really a benefit of PM or anything else, except describes a tragic thing.

Relationships fail and once they do, and the marriage relationship broken, there can be hope for a woman to find a loving husband in a plural relationship after everything has been said and done. But that's a rocky road and not really a 'benefit' of PM, more a possibility.

( I acknowledge there are some here that view a divorced woman as off limits to a plural family, I just don't hold that view.)
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I do not hold the view that divorced women are off-limits, God does grant a divorce for limited reasons and allows for remarriage. However, coming from an abusive marriage, going from one to the other is not advisable. Rebound relationships almost never work out. A woman who has been abused needs support and godly counsel to deal with the effects of abuse and to deal with any legal arrangements for herself and her children. So I agree with your response.
 
Tina Galloway said:
I loved the idea of a sister wife many years ago and now hubby on board as we I was just poly and just lately have come to the decision that it was wrong as god has been talking to me I feel and now support hubby just with a sister wife.
I just hope god can forgive my wrongs.
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@Tina Galloway, this is a major shift in your thinking, and I am very glad to see you listening to God and changing your views as you feel He is leading.

Anything you have thought or even done in the past can be forgiven. God forgives even murderers. He loves you. Never doubt his love and forgiveness.

And drawing closer to Him is far more important than polygamy. It may be that polygamy is simply the road God has taken you down to lead you to Him.
 
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