Let's take this whole paragraph and insert "man and harlot" everywhere that was referring to Adam and Eve and see how it sounds. I wonder if it will still make sense. Come on man, one flesh isn't sex? It's a firm handshake formalizing a business deal? A hug, signifying an economic stewardship and an fiduciary responsibility? It sounds like a BBC documentary. One flesh is just what it sounds like, it's something you can do with a whore and something you would really want to do but have to be disciplined about. Hugs and firm handshakes do not fall in to that category.
Amen,
@ZecAustin, and what we should all be remembering here is that there can be debate about which term we prefer to assign to the Hebrew/Greek words ("wife;" "woman;" etc.), but the more salient point is that it isn't about the nail, er, I mean, what her title was or what meaning
we ascribe to her title. She was certainly defined in these Deuteronomy 22 verses as being the woman of someone other than the man with whom sex occurred. Keeping that in mind, we can even imagine referring to a betrothed woman as the 'wife' of her future husband, but if she were still a virgin, all that exists of the marriage is a promise to enter into a
future union. Call her a fiance, a wife, the woman of the future husband, or whatever -- but the
marriage itself would not be considered to have begun until after it was consummated (that's a fancy word for, "the sex has finally happened and the one-flesh status has been initiated).
Part of my impression about what is going on in this discussion is a combination of some folks going to a lot of effort to resist the obvious and other folks failing to recognize that the biases they've unconsciously carried into the discussion from a lifetime of religious programming are preventing them from leap-frogging over cognitive dissonance to discover what is a very simple truth: it doesn't matter that there are
exceptions to The Rule about what God made clear is what seals a marriage; those exceptions further
prove The Rule. As
@ZecAustin so eloquently stated, we're not talking about a handshake or the signing of a form here. We're talking about a God-designed interaction that in His wisdom was God-intended to amount to a radical form of playing with fire, something that has life and death consequences and was not intended to be taken lightly. Only a virgin, or a highly inexperienced person (or, I will grant, possibly someone who's never gone without a condom) could possibly miss the
fact that sexual intercourse was
designed to be the most powerful interaction two human beings can engage in with each other. God designed that, and I'm going to assert something that I know will upset a lot of people who are attached to the notion that it bears some crucial meaning, but all this
covenant stuff is just yet another attempt on the part of humans to assert
their creativity in the matter of marriage, as if some ceremony or document-signing or promise on our weak-ass selves could ascend to even deserve to be
compared to the activity God Himself endowed us with to seal the deal.
Again -- from an earlier point in this discussion -- Sex does not Equal Marriage. Marriage is an ongoing relationship, recognized by all but the most addled of the politically correct as a very
distinctive type of relationship. Sex is an occasional activity that
initiates (as in,
starts) the marriage and occurs periodically during the course of the marriage, but Sex is
not the Marriage itself.
And no amount of persuading angels to dance on the head of a pin about which specific English word is considered the best translation for one specific Hebrew or Greek word is going to have any relevant effect on the question of when marriage begins.