Sigh....
Ok, so, you're going to have to explain to me what your problem is with about half of these. I honestly don't get it and don't see a problem.
There's a bunch of them that are putting the wife above or equal with the man, those are a problem. And things like happy wife happy life I understand, I honestly hate hearing that one, and I most often hear it in church.
But what is wrong with saying you're lucky to have your wife? Or you're a lucky husband? Samuel wouldn't use the word lucky, he would say blessed, but the meaning is the same.
Or be nice? Is there a problem with telling someone to be nice to your wife? Or being nice to her yourself?
Or being loving? Isn't that what the Bible commands you to do, love your wife?
I think I've read this post out of context. I certainly hope I have.
I'll explain...
- I'm so lucky to have my wife
- I'd be nothing without her
These are all in the same vain. Lucky husband (or more often "lucky man") is often said by others of a man who is much less attractive than his wife. Pedestal, more than just a wife worship thing, it often has it's source in thinking she's an angel, perfect, better than him. I suspect this comes about in part from men who had a hard time getting a woman, and then snagged one who settled and also in part from women who emotionally abuse their men (which is quite a lot of them). 'My wife is perfect' .... no, she has the same carnal nature of all women. There are no prefect women; least of all the wives of men who say this. The wive's I've met who came close didn't have men worshiping them like that. The men who speak like this of their wives are not just making them goddesses, they're overlooking their real faults. Usually because the man thinks he is so inferior he's willing to pretend they don't exist. You can see here the shades of Stockholm syndrome.
But here is the problem...women marry up. They want a man who is taller, bigger, smarter, stronger, faster, more confident and more beautiful than them. If they have that, they are attracted, happy, and content. If they don't have that they are cold, unhappy, and discontent. They will look down at him. They despise weak men, unintelligent men, ugly men. When they have a man like this it means they settled. The mans sex life will be dreary. The woman is more likely to cheat, more likely to divorce him once the kids are out of diapers. And the man is highly unlikely to to be the head of their marriage.
So when a man talks about how perfect his wife is, how he is 'soooo lucky' to have her, how he's nothing without her, how she's physically stronger than him, more spiritual than him, he is broadcasting that she is better than him. And that is an inherently unstable situation. Often this is the result of hypercontrolling women who berate their men, treat them like children, lead them around by the nose, limit what they can do, control their schedule, etc. "I'd be nothing without her" means he thinks he is nothing, worthless, not worth her; and what woman wants that?
The husband is supposed to be the head, the leader, the spiritual leader, the one in her life who guides, guards and molds her. He can't be that if he's inferior to her.
Put differently, women swoon more for the man who says "she's lucky to have me" than the man who says "I'm so lucky to have her". A man who can say the former (and pull it off) is confident, self assured, and attractive. His wife won't leave him. Of course if you're fat pudgy and weak you won't pull it off. Which is why you should be the best version of you possible.