Correct.What I hear you saying is that if a potential husband has problems that prevent him from providing the normal requirements, she can waive her rights to them and still have a marriage.
Possibly even a good one.
Correct.What I hear you saying is that if a potential husband has problems that prevent him from providing the normal requirements, she can waive her rights to them and still have a marriage.
Possibly even a good one.
many men do not require their first wives bring in income but do require any additional wives who come in to work and take care of themselves.I'm still curious your take on my Polygamy question though. Is a man right in seeking additional wives if he needs a first wife's income to provide food and clothing?
For obvious practical reasons. If wife 1 is already a housewife, and wife 2 already has a job as she has been living alone, and the husband can't afford two housewives, it makes practical sense for wife 2 to keep her job at least initially.many men do not require their first wives bring in income but do require any additional wives who come in to work and take care of themselves.
And it depends on the ages of those involved. Adding a wife who is past child bearing will likely be different to a young virgin whose hope and desire is to raise a family.For obvious practical reasons. If wife 1 is already a housewife, and wife 2 already has a job as she has been living alone, and the husband can't afford two housewives, it makes practical sense for wife 2 to keep her job at least initially.
Obviously wife 2 has the clear choice between being a working single woman and a working married woman, she doesn't have to marry on those terms if she prefers to remain single. If she has a job, she doesn't "need" him for economic reasons, it's entirely her decision whether marriage to him is desirable or not. It's got nothing to do with equal treatment - that may be an impossible fantasy unless marrying a billionaire. It's about whether marrying is the right decision for her personally under the practical terms available.
Good example of what I was talking about.For obvious practical reasons. If wife 1 is already a housewife, and wife 2 already has a job as she has been living alone, and the husband can't afford two housewives, it makes practical sense for wife 2 to keep her job at least initially.
Obviously wife 2 has the clear choice between being a working single woman and a working married woman, she doesn't have to marry on those terms if she prefers to remain single. If she has a job, she doesn't "need" him for economic reasons, it's entirely her decision whether marriage to him is desirable or not. It's got nothing to do with equal treatment - that may be an impossible fantasy unless marrying a billionaire. It's about whether marrying is the right decision for her personally under the practical terms available.
Well, the right thing is for a man to be the provider of his wife and family or wives and family. this is biblical correctness. Except when the man gets sick (which can happen at some point in life) when the man gets sick it is logical that the responsibility of the woman or women increases. (in this case the man got sick it is very beneficial to have more than one woman in the house to share the responsibilities)These verses state that a man should provide for his household through work.
1 Timothy 5:8 "But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."
Proverbs 13:22 "A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children, but the sinner's wealth is laid up for the righteous."
2 Thessalonians 3:10 "For even when were with you, we would give you this command: If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat. For we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies. Now such persons we command and encourage in the Lord Jesus Christ to do their work quietly and to earn their own living. As for you, Brothers, do not grow weary in doing good."
2 Corinthians 9:10 "He who supplies the seed to the sower and bread for food will supply and multiply your seed for sowing and increase the harvest of your righteousness. You will be enriched in every way to be generous in every way, which through us will provide thanksgiving to God."
Among others.
What peeked my interest in this is the following-
Exodus 21:10 "If he takes an additional wife, he must not reduce the food, clothing, or marital rights of the first wife."
If a household needs a first wife's additional outside income to support the family. Technically the man is not providing enough.
Also these verses imply that women should work within the household-
1 Timothy 5:13 “They also learn to waste their time in going around from house to house; but even worse, they learn to be gossips and busybodies talking of things they should not. So I would prefer that the younger widows get married, have children, and take care of their homes, so as to give our enemies no chance of speaking evil of us. For some widows have already turned away to follow Satan.”
Titus 2:3-5 “In the same way instruct the older women to behave as women should who live a holy life. They must not be slanderers or slaves to wine. They must teach what is good, in order to train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, and to be good housewives who submit themselves to their husbands, so that no one will speak evil of the message that comes from God.”
However these reference working outside of the household, sort of...
Proverbs 31:12 “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.”
Proverbs 31:18 “She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night.”
Proverbs 31:24 “She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant.”
I'm genuinely curious about what i'm misunderstanding? Also I am not trying to start another submission debate lol i've had enough of that. However I do have another question. I've seen others reference that women should submit to men because men provide for the household. If a woman needs to work outside of the household, then is he holding up his end of the bargain?
University and working is actually something I want to do, both to earn money and intellectual curiosity.
I do want to have children, maybe two, maybe three, I understand hat combining children with University can be challenging however it can be done and, at least some, Universities are equipped for this. Potentially one could wait until after University is finished to have children, but there are also moments during studies when a child is more opportune. My mother found it relatively easy to have a child while she was doing her PhD, since she had more flexibility to pace herself. In terms of a plural marriage I actually find that that it would make things easier. I could care for a child of another wife, while she studies, and she could care for mine.
I guess the hypothetical husbands stance on birth control would play a role. I do understand that he will enter me from day one. I personally do not have an issue with control, perhaps a husband does not either, perhaps he considers some variants acceptable, such as counting days, but then it becomes more a lottery.
With respect to birth control and timing, make sure that those are conversations are up front when you inevitably have conversations with families (do please take my advice on this and make it conversations with families rather than just men).
As this is presumably an intentional idea with marriage, family and happily ever after that you have, so I would recommend being quite intentional about the process.
This goes for the single ladies and the families.
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Your signature reminds me of my favorite TV series. Star Trek. Specifically the Deep Space Nine Ferengi character of Quark. A character from an explotative race, however the actor who played him said he considers Quark to be the most ethical character on the show. His peoples view on morality and ethics are different from the Federation but he tries to adhere to those rules as best as he can. Whereas the humans, with the best intentions, bend the rules often.
With family do you mean a hypothetical husband, and any hypothetical wives he may already have, or my parents and sisters?
My parents, even though they are not polygamist themselves, are aware of my stance, and that of at least one of my sister. They have some concerns and are not against the idea n principle.
I do want to have children, maybe two, maybe three, I understand hat combining children with University can be challenging however it can be done and, at least some, Universities are equipped for this. Potentially one could wait until after University is finished to have children, but there are also moments during studies when a child is more opportune. My mother found it relatively easy to have a child while she was doing her PhD, since she had more flexibility to pace herself. In terms of a plural marriage I actually find that that it would make things easier. I could care for a child of another wife, while she studies, and she could care for mine.
I guess the hypothetical husbands stance on birth control would play a role. I do understand that he will enter me from day one. I personally do not have an issue with control, perhaps a husband does not either, perhaps he considers some variants acceptable, such as counting days, but then it becomes more a lottery.