Gideon_70 said:
Pardon me for adding my two cents here. I'll provide verses if I need to.
Full Wife: Married to the man, and he is directly over her. She is given an area of responsibility within the household. He has authority over her, even to the ability to nullify her promises. She answers directly to him.
Concubine: A wife that is directly under the authority of a full wife. The Concubine answers to the Wife, and the wife has nearly the same authority over the man as the man has over the Full Wife.
I'll address these two for now.
A long time ago I wanted to look into what marriage really was. For instance, we use a marriage license to gain legal status for the marriage in the USA. The license and contract enact a huge number of laws that are applied to a new couple as soon as the person witnessing the contract signs it. So to me this is not marriage. Or is it? If there is sex involved, and a promise, then is it marriage?
Then an idea occurred to me. What if it was less about the promise than about the authority. Is a marriage authorized by the state a marriage if the final authority in the marriage is the state, and not the husband?
So my thoughts went to Captains of Captains. Authority. Moses striking the rock, David having Saul under his sword and not doing anything about it. Gideon not taking all of his men and instead taking only a small percentage of them. Faith, authority, chain of command, and promises.
I say promises because of the ability of a husband to break a wife's vow. If he does nothing, it stands, if he says no, it falters. He had the authority to break her vow, so she is under his authority and he is under Joshua's authority. Captains of Captains.
The thing about Concubines is that the only examples that we really have are anecdotal and what's in the Bible. Jewish lore says, "A concubine may be defined by Jewish laws as a woman dedicating herself to a particular man, with whom she cohabits without *kiddushin (see *Marriage) or *ketubbah." Ketuba is the marriage agreement between a man and his wife as a negotiated treaty between him and the woman he will be married to the rest of his life. I've looked into this extensively and these ocuments can be as bare as bones, or so detailed it spells out who takes the garbage out. The terms of the surrender, which is what it is, that the woman agrees to.
If a man has responsibility without authority, he places himself in grave danger. If he is bound by the words of his wife, and has no ketuba with the concubine, then how does the marriage work?
She's not a whore. Different term, different concept.
So what?
Then I ran into a verse. "And the angel of the LORD said unto her, Return to thy mistress, and submit thyself under her hands."
Hagar, concubine to Abraham, servant to Sarah. Why? He was sleeping with her. She was growing a child for him. Why would she still be a slave/servant?
The angel requested that she go submit, not to her husband, but to her mistress! Then I read, "And David took him more concubines and wives out of Jerusalem, after he was come from Hebron: and there were yet sons and daughters born to David." Concubines and wives? What is the difference?
Then it dawned on me. It's the authority. He still has authority over the women, but if the concubine is to submit to the wife and the wife submit to the husband, then they both submit but there is a different level of authority. It's not that far fetched, and it fits with the bible and the passages concerning it.
Imagine being husband to twenty wives! Now add ten more, twenty more! Confusion would reign. But if you divided them up, some were servants and some were wives?
So a slave that promises loyalty to a man, or a woman who chooses to join a man as a servant would be a wife of lesser statute? "CONCUBINE, marital companion of inferior status to a wife." Inferior in what way? That she has a different level of authority? So I decided that she would be under the authority of the wife, and subject to the authority of the husband one level removed.
But to me, that was the small picture. The big picture is the real question.
Okay, bear with me... this is a little strange....
If the husband marries, then he is supposed to grant a ketuba to the wife according to Jewish law.
http://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/jso ... 04557.html
http://www.interfaithfamily.com/life_cy ... h%29.shtml
The levels of authority are, God, Jesus, Man, Wife, Concubine, Children.
It is said that divorce of a concubine is a different matter than divorce of a wife. They were sent away, dismissed. The authority is different. The concubine, as a woman under the headship of a wife, would not have the same contract as the wife.... no ketuba.
So, this is where it kind of blew my mind, and I think I few of you already get where I'm going...
If the head of the household is a judge, and the man's authority to marry comes from him, then does that not mean that a legal wife in the USA is really a concubine and not a true wife?