Where does a woman get the authority to both leave and give her husband a writing of divorce? I think this is misinterpreting scripture brother.
"And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money." Also, it can be argued since a wife is his possession if she was physically harmed she could leave based on “When a man strikes the eye of his slave, male or female, and destroys it, he shall let the slave go free because of his eye. If he knocks out the tooth of his slave, male or female, he shall let the slave go free because of his tooth. (Exodus 21:26-27)
Scripture references? Easily disproven with Dinah and Shechem. And Absalom and Tamar. They both slept with her, wasn’t her husband/owner/master/lord.
Regarding Dinah and Shechem, Jacob's response to that was "You have brought trouble on me by making me obnoxious to the Canaanites and Perizzites, the people living in this land. We are few in number, and if they join forces against me and attack me, I and my household will be destroyed.” Dinah's brothers responded treacherously going against "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
Where did you see that Absalom had relations with his sister Tamar? If you mean Tamar and her half brother Amnon, they did not become husband and wife because Amnon failed in his obligations.
Also the servant man given a woman while in service to a master. He may go free but she doesn’t leave with him because she doesn’t belong to the man sleeping with her, neither do the children.
Great point. That is why I would need to modify what constitutes marriage, or how does a man becomes in one flesh union.
A virgin woman is called a man’s wife despite being a virgin.
wife is english word. Anytime we see wife we could substitute woman and ownership of man over woman remains. It can be said, "a virgin woman is called a man's woman despite being a virgin. (of course because she has been betrothed.
A woman who has lain with a man is not described as being his unless he takes ownership of her.
And how does he take ownership of her. consummation.
Sex creates an obligation to marry according to scripture. It cannot create an obligation if the obligation is simultaneously fulfilled upon the act of consummation. It’s logically inconsistent and absurd to insist sex is the only defining thing that creates that “marriage” relationship. Too many instances where it’s easily proven with consistent logical application of reason.
If you using contemporary meaning then it seems illogical. If terms defined properly then there would be no logical inconsistencies. By just avoiding the word marry, and marriage, the issues get resolved. Regarding observation you bring in this case (logically inconsistency); it can be said when we assign certain meaning to " whoever looks at woman to lust after her has committed adultery in his heart". It is absurd to say that when I am selecting a woman to be my woman (aka wife) I must not have sexual desires for her. But when same phrase would be stated, "whoever looks a wife to lust after her has committed adultery in his heart", then the meaning becomes more clear and palatable for logic. I am stating that when we use words as defined by scripture meaning of one flesh union becomes more clear.