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How much money should I be making before I get married?

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For those men considering polygamy, wives need to be given much more information up front, and also allowed time to acclimate.
Yes. If men would take the time to read the Bible and explain it to their potential wife, wife, and children much of the heartache and confusion could be avoided or overcome. The biblical illiteracy among so-called Christians is very sad. It shouldn't be like that.
 
Aaron, I commend you for doing some self reflection and checking yourself prior to finding a wife. That’s already a step in the right direction!

While money is a necessity, it isn’t as big of a deal as we make it out to be. Biblically, what few recognize is that “providing” for a wife in biblical times meant a tent or mud hut, bread, water, and some goat/lamb. Not Gucci, a BMW, and always having the latest and greatest cell phone.

Last, as others have said, you would be surprised how far a good woman can stretch your paycheck, motivate you to great heights, and always have your back. Even if that means that she has to hustle instead of being strictly focused on the home at all times.

Start looking now, and trust Yah. You’re going to be ok Brother
 
i was homeless for 6 years in my 20s and i lived quite comfortably on about $4k of spending per year.

i know how to stretch money and make it last.

but what im bad at is generating money, because im lazy.

that's been my focus the past few years. i think i'll be ready to marry once im sufficiently hard working.
 
i was homeless for 6 years in my 20s and i lived quite comfortably on about $4k of spending per year.

i know how to stretch money and make it last.

but what im bad at is generating money, because im lazy.

that's been my focus the past few years. i think i'll be ready to marry once im sufficiently hard working.
Might I suggest “money” in itself is not a good motivation to work.
I would suggest starting with asking yourself some questions
“where do I want be at the end of my life, where and with what and the people around you”
Once you got that.
Begin the process of reverse engineering your dream / vision.
Things worth noting are…..
Money is only vehicle for accomplishing something , there are many other mechanisms that God could use.
Some tasks seem insurmountable, they are like eating an elephant pie.
You start with one bite at a time.
I dare you to have a big dream
 
but what im bad at is generating money, because im lazy.

that's been my focus the past few years. i think i'll be ready to marry once im sufficiently hard working.
It may not be laziness but a lack in motivation(?) When I was single I found it difficult to get motivated to do the ironing. I have never liked ironing my clothes. I'd work long hours at something I liked, but avoid ironing as much as possible.

Finding the motivation to accomplish a task, no matter how easy or difficult, might be your challenge.
I would suggest starting with asking yourself some questions
“where do I want be at the end of my life, where and with what and the people around you”
Once you got that.
Begin the process of reverse engineering your dream / vision.
Exactly. Knowing where you are at; "A", and then clearly identifying where you want to get to; "Z", and then each step to get from A to Z helps break the seemingly impossible down into manageable steps. Once a person has got from "A to the next step, "B", there is the sense of progress and accomplishment.

Is it a home, a relationship, your own business, or something else? Break those goals down into manageable parts. However, keep in mind, A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps (Proverbs 16:9). And also, Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, spend a year there, buy and sell, and make a profit”; whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that” (James 4:13-15). Submit all your plans and goals to His will and see where He directs. Shalom
 
Might I suggest “money” in itself is not a good motivation to work.
"Money" isn't even remotely the right WORD for what people think they lust for today. The paper* stuff, based on UTTERLY "dishonest weights and measures" is specifically called "abomination" (half a dozen times in Proverbs alone) and even worse (a curse) in the last third of Deuteronomy chapter 25. Yahushua calls even the love of the REAL stuff (the Hebrew word 'money' is literally also 'qesef' - silver) "the root of all evil."

I can't help but suggest He is at least implying that the lust to substitute the fake for the real is a part of that evil.

Real, honest 'money' facilitates the exchange of value between people. That is where the focus should be.




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* Which still beats "bits"...BTW.
 
Might I suggest “money” in itself is not a good motivation to work.
I would suggest starting with asking yourself some questions
“where do I want be at the end of my life, where and with what and the people around you”
Once you got that.
Begin the process of reverse engineering your dream / vision.
Things worth noting are…..
Money is only vehicle for accomplishing something , there are many other mechanisms that God could use.
Some tasks seem insurmountable, they are like eating an elephant pie.
You start with one bite at a time.
I dare you to have a big dream
i think we share the same conceit, its just that making money is part of it. you need money to be a provider for a woman and a father.
It may not be laziness but a lack in motivation(?) When I was single I found it difficult to get motivated to do the ironing. I have never liked ironing my clothes. I'd work long hours at something I liked, but avoid ironing as much as possible.

Finding the motivation to accomplish a task, no matter how easy or difficult, might be your challenge.
i mean that's fine, you're accurate in your more precise assessment, but god's word isn't quite so subtle. those who dont work shouldnt eat and sluggards should only expect for times to pass them by and find themselves wanting. this nuance between "im not lazy because i work hard at trivial things that dont matter" seems largely excusatory. of course i work hard at video games i like, but it's still stupid to excuse working hard at work.
 
of course i work hard at video games i like, but it's still stupid to excuse working hard at work.
Sure, I had no insights into exactly what you were working hard at. I sought to be a little gracious in my reply. Shalom
 
Yahushua calls even the love of the REAL stuff (the Hebrew word 'money' is literally also 'qesef' - silver) "the root of all evil."
Point of correction: It was actually Paul who wrote this to Timothy, but indeed true nonethelss.
 
I cant help but wonder if hypergamy, is the driver of wealth accumulation. If you were given a peice of land fruitful land and told it was yours and your descendants forever how much money would you actually need? On some level or another most men do things to get the girl.
The focus for many today is wealth accumulation, but it's accumulation in the wrong place. People are storing up their treasures here on earth. Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also (Matt. 6:33). We have so much stuff... and yet want more! Until heaven becomes the priority, earthly treasure will remain the primary focus for men and women.
 
With proper patriarchy, polygyny BECOMES a financial powerhouse.
And don't forget to donate some of that powerhouse to the ministry that supports all of this. There is so much more impact this ministry could have if the financial resources were available.
 
And don't forget to donate some of that powerhouse to the ministry that supports all of this. There is so much more impact this ministry could have if the financial resources were available.

Just imagine how powerful it could be if it truly embraced free speech on Scripture!
 
Just imagine how powerful it could be if it truly embraced free speech on Scripture!
Just imagine how many people it would turn away if it allowed some people to abuse their free speech on this platform!

EDIT: When you think about it, the monogamist thinks we should become Muslim or join a sect of Mormonism, so when we stray too far from the mainstream on the main issues that unite us in Christ, we accomplish very little.
 
With proper patriarchy, polygyny BECOMES a financial powerhouse.
One more thought on building a financial powerhouse. I know a man who is concerned that his son who sold his business for $1 billion, is getting too close to another woman who is not his wife. I tried to reach out to the man myself https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandon-schwertner/, and I left him a short message, but I never got a response back.
 
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