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I know that I have been away for some time but I have been keeping up with this post. Coming from a woman’s point of view, I have been getting red flags left and right with this post. I don’t expect an answer or even an honest answer but why are the woman trying so hard to leave him in the first place. My husband is a wonderful and strong leader and I completely respect him and never once threatened him. Just makes me wonder what type of man he really is. Just a thought and observation. I think the true focus is not on the women and the blame or faults that he has directed toward them but should be on how he treats them. I will leave it at that.
A good Godly leader will usually not receive those threats from his wives. They will be very happy to submit to his leadership and be proud to be his wife as I am with my husband.
Only if she is a good Godly woman.
Yeah, it's probably a hormonal imbalance thing, as @Tesfalcon alluded to. We live in a fallen world, and the enemy has lots of experience using things like that to destroy marriages.
Imbalance in that department can make life very not fun.
Not fun, and very much in need of prayer and love, especially when she gets the feeling that she is unlovable.
I don't know when, but I do know who called CPS on us. They showed up tonight asking questions. Questions to confirm a report that only someone who no longer lives here would know. The very same objections she made when living here. My house isn't good enough for her, and the future isn't worth waiting for.
Apparently, her threat to call CPS wasn't an idle threat.
In our "reconciliation discussion", I went over Rom 12:1-3 about living a life of sacrifice and how Paul noted that pride interferes w that call of God. We're all making sacrifices for each other and for an improved future here. She keeps talking like 21st century life doesn't require any sacrifices. "It's 2021. Why should I...?"
Apparently, her threat to call CPS wasn't an idle threat.
In our "reconciliation discussion", I went over Rom 12:1-3 about living a life of sacrifice and how Paul noted that pride interferes w that call of God. We're all making sacrifices for each other and for an improved future here. She keeps talking like 21st century life doesn't require any sacrifices. "It's 2021. Why should I...?"
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As one of the few women responding here, I would like to address your special concerns.
While there have been several stories related here, some of the timeframes haven't always been clear. Sandra & I married at 20/21 in 1995. Some would call that too young. At the very least, I can testify that we were both very immature. We fought often and poorly. We were very religious, but neither of us were close to God's definition of godly. She made her last threat to leave at the carkeys incident which was ~2 yrs in (~97).
We've been through a lot over the past 25 yrs. Rich and poor. Helping others and needing it ourselves. Sickness and health. Etc. Until I did my intense Bible study on marriage, etc. I would have said that I was godly. After, not so much. It took 5 yrs for God to get me to heel. Then it was a continuing struggle to deal w a wife who was an emotional basketcase from her traumatic past before she even met me. Ups and downs.
D, our 1st attempt, was a skilled liar. I was gullible and foolish, but when I wouldn't swallow the hook, she sought easier fish to fry.
Alexa is new in the faith and is having a hard time reconciling her Mormon father's attitude toward the Bible, her Jewish mother's attitude toward men, and her personal conversion in 2015 when it comes to marriage and personal behavior. She relies more on personal history than Scripture. She can quote it as well as I can, but either she doesn't believe it or understand it.
If u were taught to submit to your husband and u had a good fatherly influence, then perhaps your marriage was less tumultuous than mine have been. But when one's parents were violent drunks or surrendered to matriarchy or were constantly fighting or someone has a repressed memory of sexual abuse, life isn't as smooth sailing.
Sadly, somebody who is willing to endanger your children in order to get personal revenge on you, in this case by reporting you to a government agency with the power to kidnap the children, is a danger whom you probably need to protect your family from. So if you are correct on this it certainly changes the situation somewhat. Although I wouldn't say it's grounds for divorce, it's certainly grounds for firm separation until there is serious evidence of repentance and the elimination of this risk. I am very sad to hear this - but relieved that you aren't reporting any actual harm done, presumably CPS left happy there was no problem?
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She left. Happy? Never.
They'll eventually find richer fish to bilk.
Snoops & busybodies all.
No, u can't snoop around my house.
Get a warrant.
My brother-in-law's ex-wife called CPS on him, in order to keep him from calling CPS on her. It was a nasty situation, which was an effort to win child custody and to make it seem like when abuse was discovered with her new lover, that he was only acting out of revenge when he eventually reported it.
If tangible evidence exists, a purposeful attempt to destroy the family certainly qualifies as grounds for divorce.
So now my prayer is for God to judge her and bring her to repentance, because that seems to be where the repentance needs to take place.
You are making a direct accusation.
I would like to hear the other side of the story.
When we bought this house, it was clearly understood that it needed a complete redesign and reconstruction of the plumbing system. No toilets were functional. No water ran except what leaked. I've cut it all out back to the meter and installed new pvc dwv in place of the cast iron and new pex in place of the galvanized. 1st toilet downstairs was functional before she left. Laundry and kitchen sink drain should work by week's end. 2nd toilet upstairs will be next plumbing mission.
Progress wasn't good enough. She demanded: "I have to have a daily hot shower. I'm not a caveman."
This is significant because that was part of the questioning by CPS. "Are the children able to shower daily?"
W minimal running water, washing dishes requires patience and creativity. Heat water in a plastic bowl in microwave. Wash dishes. Dump dirty water into 5-gal bucket. Repeat as needed. Dump bucket when complete into toilet. Such a process was "too much to ask". Of course, she refused to wash dishes in the last house w a sink, hot water on tap, etc. so I am skeptical of the excuse.
Again the question from CPS, "Do have any way to clean your dishes?"
The house was wired in the early 1900s. The design is called "knob and tube". It's functional but not robust. An outlet started smoking so we stopped using it. She tried to plug to electric space heaters in upstairs which, apparently, is all one circuit. Breaker tripped.
"If you don't keep this house a constant 70 all winter long, I'm gonna get pneumonia and die!"
Thus we're using a 230k btu kerosene heater to warm the house. (No electricity needed.) W temps in the 40s, it's warm. Christmas week w windchill dropping to -10, it struggled. No, we're not toasty, but we're not risking frostbite either.
Apparently, she outright lied, "We were told that u had no heat source." Police w her could smell the kerosene which was lit and warmth left the door.
Some stuff has changed and been upgraded since she left, but what "other side of the story" are you looking for?
Sounds rough! You should move to Texas. I grew up in a house that had no central heat or AC. We had a wood burning stove. It was cold in the winter and hot in the summer, but the cold, I'd hate to think of trying to keep warm in 10 below outside temps. We had a lake nearby, so when it got too hot, occasionally, we would make a trip out there for a nice swim.
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