I regret asking the question. I don't think I meant for the discussion to go into that subject in the way it did. I think the question was born out of a feeling that this lifestyle is somewhat of a fantasy.
In a way it kinda of is, but probably not in the way you think. There are many people who would love to have a second wife, but a second wife that is a blessing and an asset to your family is not easy to find and many couples never find one. So your fears, though normal and common, are probably pre-mature, if not unfounded (unless you or your husband already has someone in mind).
Likely over time your heart will change and you will want God to bless your family and you will want your household to grow and yet still no one arrives. So in that sense it is certainly a fantasy.
However, let me be clear. You are right about one thing. If you do find someone, it will be a harder than monogamy. Way harder. No one who has done it, even successfully, says that it is easier. It is just polygamists think the effort is worth the blessing.
I know there are those living it. But they seem very few and far between. Then there are so many stories of things blowing up and marriages falling apart.
All true. Polygamy is rare and it does cause marriages to blow up. If you try to live it, you will be tested, probably more than you ever have in your life.
It seems such a big call to ask a first wife to sacrifice in such a way, for a 2nd wife to also be so self sacrificing and then of course for the husband to be also. Obviously, that's the call on all believers lives. This just seems more intense, a step above from what the majority of believers live.
Bullseye! Everyone involved will have to sacrifice to make it work.
And you are also correct in that selflessness is really a call for all Christians.
You are also correct in that it is a step above what the majority of Christians have to do. They can look very Christian and still be very selfish internally. Trying to live polygamy will find you out!
So it appears that God may be calling you to something more? Are you ready for that? Is that what you want? The reward is a closer relationship with Christ.
“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever,” (Psalm 73:26).
You will learn that your husband is not your portion. It is God himself.