Jimmy Carter screwed up in his famous Playboy interview by confusing 'lust' with 'coveting.'
Many men have sex with virgins, and then move on to the next girl; simply because they want more sexual partners, find something unclean about her, or they are not ready for marriage. But scripture says that if a man takes a woman’s virginity - he has himself a wife (unless her father - her covering - says otherwise). These things should be taught to all young men and women in the church. It’s the basics on sex and marriage. And so many don’t have a clue what his Word says.16 "If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the bride-price for virgins." (Exodus 22:16-17)
The way I was thinking of it, having sex with an unmarried woman, and then not following through with marriage or paying the bride-price, is the in-the-flesh sin. Lusting after a woman with your heart set on merely having sex and then not marrying her would be "actual" lust, or fornication in the heart, instead of mere sexual attraction that most people are confused about. Is that right?
A follow up question I have, regarding lust: where does watching pornography land? From the discussion it seems like a few folks here would be fine with it, as long as the person on screen was not another man's wife?
One of the long running debates we have here is whether there is such a thing as “sex before marriage”. The really, really smart people say no. That sex always forms a marriage or is adultery.16 "If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the bride-price for virgins." (Exodus 22:16-17)
The way I was thinking of it, having sex with an unmarried woman, and then not following through with marriage or paying the bride-price, is the in-the-flesh sin. Lusting after a woman with your heart set on merely having sex and then not marrying her would be "actual" lust, or fornication in the heart, instead of mere sexual attraction that most people are confused about. Is that right?
A follow up question I have, regarding lust: where does watching pornography land? From the discussion it seems like a few folks here would be fine with it, as long as the person on screen was not another man's wife?