Hey all, I know I’m late to this party, but I have my husbands teaching on this subject that may prove helpful to a few offended parties. (I realize that maybe what I’m about to say may have been already stated but the entire thread is 17 pages long and was derailed a ton so....TLDR Lol)
The entire point to being a wife is to please your husband. Full stop. It’s not if you feel like it or even want to, dare I say. If I don’t want to have sex with my husband, that does not excuse me from my duties any more so than if I didn’t feel like cooking a meal and let everyone in my house go hungry. Sex is made too much of, particularly by women because it is the only source of perceived power. The programming is real, folks. The very reason women were/are owned by their father/husband is to protect them from evil. I get that’s a blanket statement, but understand that we live under the curse of sin in this world and the enemy wants nothing more than a woman to have power over her body (that is rightfully her husbands) and thus destroying the familial and biblical foundations set by The Lord. I’m in no way saying that we are immune to bad days and just “not in the mood”, but as harsh as it may seem to some, Rockfox is on point. And it’s not about hating women - though I admit I struggled with that too. Women aren’t evil (unless they are fem nazis....) but as the weaker vessel, we present a real danger of not properly cared for and protected, even against ourselves.
In the same stride, it’s a husbands duty to care and love (sacrifice for) his wife. If a wife is struggling, a husband will make a decision as to what she needs to help her. This may come in the form of communication, bible study, cuddles, affirmation, fasting, etc. As husband and wife, we are a team, designed to build up each other. Now, if your husband is Nebal the idiot, then Praise God that He delivered you, or continue to pray for peace. My husband always points his role back to our Savior who tells us that to lead is to serve, and His amazement at the faith of the centurion. The man was a good leader because he knew obedience, and therefore had faith because he could trust in His authority.
Thank you for sharing thoughts on this and allowing me to participate! Peace to all.