He admitted to me that she loved him more than he loved her
That's a stable formulation. The other way around would be a problem.
He admitted to me that she loved him more than he loved her
To clarify my perspective on this as staff - I see this as simply an introduction, as @Mage has said. ANY respected man here could be approached to be the introducing party, they do not need to be staff. However, if someone didn't know who to ask, picking one of the staff is an obvious choice as they're all decent people. The suggestion is not that the staff would be formally arranging introductions or marriages.Given this description I can understand your uneasiness, but the concept wasn't that a BF staff member would be a determining authority on who marries whom but that for those woman how are uncomfortable with approaching a man have another avenue to contact a man that they would like to get to know better. The BF staff members would facilitate introductions between the 2 parties.
There would also not be a single staff member that would handle this that way she can contact a staff member she is comfortable with to make the introduction or if a single lady is interested in a staff member she can reach out to a different one to have them facilitate an introduction with the other.
Darn it, you got to it first. I was thinking the same thing. To be honest, I think it's the healthiest way to operate a marriage (put down the chairs women). It certainly helps for polygyny...for a host of reasons.That's a stable formulation. The other way around would be a problem.
Not to be overly contrarian, but I think Jesus loves His bride more than she loves him. I don't know if that's healthy or not, I just know that I would be scared if it were not so.
I'm not going to disagree, but what I was speaking to (I will let @rockfox speak for himself) was the idealized and romantic love. It's that whole emotional thing that we with the high AQ don't get wrapped up in as much.Not to be overly contrarian, but I think Jesus loves His bride more than she loves him. I don't know if that's healthy or not, I just know that I would be scared if it were not so.
THIS ^^^^^^^^^ A thousand times over!!!!!!In polygyny, a man has to be dedicated to the hard work of the project because he loves his wives and family. It won't matter how much gushy, emotional love he displays if he can't put in the action parts of love.
I'm not going to disagree, but what I was speaking to (I will let @rockfox speak for himself) was the idealized and romantic love. It's that whole emotional thing that we with the high AQ don't get wrapped up in as much.
It gets us back to the conversation about servant/leader. A husband that loves his wife by serving and doing finds it hard to understand why she wants words, when we prefer actions.
In polygyny, a man has to be dedicated to the hard work of the project because he loves his wives and family. It won't matter how much gushy, emotional love he displays if he can't put in the action parts of love.
Am I making sense?
I would just like to say that the father didn't cause her to commit fornication. Those actions and decisions are her own. Dont be blaming fathers for wanting their daughters to have a good education so they can go far in life. Blame the women who make the choice to do wrong. Give honor where honor is due, I believe that is both negative and positive honor.because he has caused her to commit fornication,
I would just like to say that the father didn't cause her to commit fornication. Those actions and decisions are her own. Dont be blaming fathers for wanting their daughters to have a good education so they can go far in life. Blame the women who make the choice to do wrong.
While some may see that as you not believing in women, I see it as you emphasizing the responsibility of the males in a woman’s life to protect her.The 20's are the time of highest fertility for women. They are biologically driven (created instinct) to breed and bear children. To expect women to remain celibate for 10-15 years while pursuing education and being surrounded by young men looking for sex is hopelessly naive at best.
While some may see that as you not believing in women, I see it as you emphasizing the responsibility of the males in a woman’s life to protect her.
It’s not that she is that weak, it is that the forces arrayed against her are extremely strong. It’s the one place where if a woman has a 99.99% success rate it is still devastating.
The 20's are the time of highest fertility for women. They are biologically driven (created instinct) to breed and bear children. To expect women to remain celibate for 10-15 years while pursuing education and being surrounded by young men looking for sex is hopelessly naive at best.
I don't see @rockfox's comment as being an unrelated soapbox. The point I see that he's making is that, while a father may be focusing on the "getting ahead in the world" aspect of things by encouraging his daughter to go to college, what the father is also inadvertently doing is sending his daughter, at the peak of her fertility into an environment in which (a) the professors will preach nonsense as well as convey facts; (b) the residence life and student affairs staff will have as their highest commitment denigrating and replacing every value with which the father has raised the daughter; (c) without the stopgaps previously provided by home, school and church, the daughter and her own pheromonal and hormonal raging will be surrounded hundreds of near-in-age males (also with hormones raging), the majority of whom will perform every stunt, lie and acrobatics to persuade her to give up her carnal treasure (up to and including lying to her about supposedly being in love with her); (d) feminism rules the day, even in almost all church-related institutions of higher learning; (e) the school's health division hands out birth control pills, condoms and abortions like candy; and (f) forming life-long attachments is looked down upon with a vengeance.I’m not sure why you replied what you did to that particular post. Either you totally missed the point of her thread, or you were just using it to present an entirely unrelated soapbox.
While some may see that as you not believing in women, I see it as you emphasizing the responsibility of the males in a woman’s life to protect her.
It’s not that she is that weak, it is that the forces arrayed against her are extremely strong. It’s the one place where if a woman has a 99.99% success rate it is still devastating.
Same for boys.... I've encouraged trade school for my sons while continuing to live at home... the one working on his Masters now did two years of trade and the rest online while working full-time.... when he moves out at 24 he'll be nearly debt free and have a professional degree and an income to match. And, he is a man! For some lady or ladies, he'll be an exceptional leader.his might not be the best use of 4 years of a young woman's life
I would respectfully disagree with you. Fathers have near total responsibility and culpability to lead their children. If the daughter rebels then of course the sin is on her, but putting her in harm’s way will be on the father.I would just like to say that the father didn't cause her to commit fornication. Those actions and decisions are her own. Dont be blaming fathers for wanting their daughters to have a good education so they can go far in life. Blame the women who make the choice to do wrong. Give honor where honor is due, I believe that is both negative and positive honor.
Prioritizing education and career before family results in more single childless women, more divorces, fewer families and smaller families. Expecting young people to go 10-20 years without sex has proven to be unrealistic, as should be expected because that was not God's created design; it is unnatural.
There are two paths you can send daughters on:
1. education, then career, and then maybe family (it plays out in that order and family will be the least of them, hampered by debt and smaller due to wasted fertility)
or
2. marriage, then children, and then maybe education/career
All of that sounds very generically good Rockfox, and yet blanket statements like that, which may be generically true, too often give rise to conclusions that are not true.
For example, if a young person goes to a college, its really not their fault if they are promiscuous because . . . . . . . They just cant help it! False