It seems sort of silly to advocate for leadership if there is 0% chance of success.
Polygamy can be wonderful wakeup call for both husband and wife, but not because the wife feels threatened (or at least that should not be the reason). The reason it it can be a wonderful wakeup call if because you now have the opportunity to learn what God really requires of both the husband and the wife in a marriage. And we all know that following God is the only true way to success.
Yes you can. It is not the end of the story. You can grow and mature together and make things right.
Again, you are focused on blame. I am focused on what is possible.
So you are saying that you witnessed many men who were perfect representations of Christ towards the church, both in leadership and sacrifice, and they still had witches for wives who tore down their houses?
So are you saying these men who are "stuck" in unhappy marriages are perfectly content, or are you saying that contentment is not a Christian virtue? Or are you saying that God commands us to do something that we have no control over?
Whose fault is this? Maybe try changing this and being a true leader and see if the marriage starts looking up?
It is like being a parent and being focused on giving your children everything they want and making them happy and then you are surprised that you end up with a spoiled child and you want to blame the child for it. No! The parent is responsible. Try changing your parenting first! Be a leader! Do your job! Fix it!
I appreciate the compliment, but my marriage today has not looked the way it does now for the past 35 years. What we have we have today we built by taking responsibility for it and building it together. It starts with getting on the same team and having goodwill for each other.
Only losers point fingers and blame. You can be a winner if you want to be.
It may seem silly, but the alternative is to cave in and kowtow to her demands, and I know how disastrous that can be.
"Together" is the operative word there. You cannot force your wife to follow you, but IF she does, as your wife has done, you will grow and mature together. If not, it will only lead to strife.
Whenever you claim that someone is responsible for something being done, when that something is not done, that person is inherently at fault, because they failed to carry out their responsibilities.
Since when is perfection expected of anyone?
God didn't command us to be content. Paul was using that in a context of the desire to gain riches, saying that those who desire to be rich, fall into many harmful snares. You are misapplying that verse.
And if the wife doesn't follow, she may just leave her husband. In that scenario, and if I were to go back in time and do that correctly, I would have said, "You are free to go, but to remarry is adultery. You are always free to return, even if I have remarried, which is not adultery, but as long as I am alive, if you marry another man, you will be committing adultery, and Scripture states that God will judge fornicators and adulterers". OK! I would have had I known then what I know now. That is what I advise men who are going through that, but in fact, a man in our orchestra, revealed to me that he and his wife were separated. I noticed one time that he made a joke that was demeaning to his wife, and she walked away, and I told him that if a joke is not funny to everyone, it is mean. They are back together, so being more Christlike may have healed their marriage somewhat, but he recently revealed to me that the only reason he has stayed with his wife, is because of what Scripture says about divorce.
Claiming that it is the husband's responsibility, is pointing fingers and blame. Scripture tells us where the responsibility for building a home, lies, but the church has unfortunately all too often ignored those Scriptures.
I am a winner, and I know I am.