Thank you
I am not really trying to pursue poly just for its own sake. I honestly never thought that, although it was on my heart, God would bring it about. I thought I would never meet someone who would love me enough to want to share. But I did. I met her because she was going through a hard place spiritually and I tried to help her see God's love and presence in the darkness. I started just being friends, and although I was attracted to her I thought that was all it would ever be. At the same time my wife and I had talked about poly and although she didnt want it for us, she acknowledged the Biblical nature of it. Fast forward 6 months or so and the second told me she loved me and wanted to follow and submit to me as a wife, and that if I couldnt then she would spend her life single, loving me from afar, because she felt God had called her to be with me. I mean, that is such a God thing! If I had approached her first or anything had happened differently we would not be where we are.
Yes, the first wife is still upset. We have met with a few people but she still has her hangups. There is nothing I can do to convince her or make her like it. So my goal has been to simply keep loving her, to seek a closer relationship with her, and to be a better husband. Because what God has spoke to myself, the second, and a few mentors is that we are married spiritually, and it would be divorce for me to abandon the second. So since it IS happening, the first wife and I are working to get through it and find unity. She has asked to do some counseling to help her learn how to respect and submit to me better even when she disagrees or dislikes my decision (like poly). Im not sure how it will go, but I pray it will be a good step forward.