I leave for 36 hours and this post blows up from 3 to 13 pages?
Thank you @Foxlily and @FollowingHim for at least trying to address the actual topic. Same to anyone else I missed in the hubub.
Beautiful post @Sonshine. That is what it sounds like when a wife wants to please her man and has Godly repentance. We all slip up from time to time, what matters is how we deal with it. He failed to lead, she failed to follow but they both own up to their failures and move forward rather than try and justify their present condition.
There is a very big spiritual component here you all are missing. I don't know if it's the elephant in the room or no one told you it exists so you can't see it. I'm not surprised, today's church does not teach it and our culture encourages the opposite.
Namely...the scriptures condemn sloth and gluttony.
Now there can be mitigating factors such as pregnancy or health problems which may be unrelated to sin. But they are no excuse for not putting in the work to get healthy again. And a lot of those health problems have their source in gluttony or not taking care of our temple by eating/injecting junk. It is also common for women to gain more weight in pregnancy than is warranted because they overeat and stop exercising (if they ever exercised to begin with).
It is important to be honest with yourself about where you are and how you got there. Because with repentance comes healing and the help of the Holy Spirit.
Let's be frank: most people, men and women, are just plain weak. Even if they're skinny, rarely do they have much strength. With our modern lifestyle it takes determined exercise to achieve and maintain a healthy body. And I'm not telling you anything the CDC hasn't been screaming at the obstinate American public about for decades. I strongly oppose conventional medicine, but doctors are warranted in their repeated complaints about the unwillingness of patients to loose weight and get healthy.
Taking drugs is a quick fix that ignores both the root causes (physical and spiritual) and the unforeseen side effects down the road. Although I do understand that husbands who don't yet have control of their household may have an easier time getting her on board with a pill. It's still not a long term solution.
Oh, and man is the head of his house. He doesn't need a bible verse to justify wanting his wife to stay healthy and physically attractive. It is enough that it pleases him she does so. So too should he set a good example. It is no coincidence that many couples are very similar to each other with respect to how overweight they are. Just like the typical man wants a skinny tight wife so too does the typical wife a strong muscly man. Oh sure he'll say he finds you attractive as you are, and he does, but he'll find you much more attractive when you're in shape. Oh sure she may say she finds you attractive as you are. But she'll swoon so hard for you with muscles. Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you.
Thank you @Foxlily and @FollowingHim for at least trying to address the actual topic. Same to anyone else I missed in the hubub.
Beautiful post @Sonshine. That is what it sounds like when a wife wants to please her man and has Godly repentance. We all slip up from time to time, what matters is how we deal with it. He failed to lead, she failed to follow but they both own up to their failures and move forward rather than try and justify their present condition.
There is a very big spiritual component here you all are missing. I don't know if it's the elephant in the room or no one told you it exists so you can't see it. I'm not surprised, today's church does not teach it and our culture encourages the opposite.
Namely...the scriptures condemn sloth and gluttony.
Now there can be mitigating factors such as pregnancy or health problems which may be unrelated to sin. But they are no excuse for not putting in the work to get healthy again. And a lot of those health problems have their source in gluttony or not taking care of our temple by eating/injecting junk. It is also common for women to gain more weight in pregnancy than is warranted because they overeat and stop exercising (if they ever exercised to begin with).
It is important to be honest with yourself about where you are and how you got there. Because with repentance comes healing and the help of the Holy Spirit.
Let's be frank: most people, men and women, are just plain weak. Even if they're skinny, rarely do they have much strength. With our modern lifestyle it takes determined exercise to achieve and maintain a healthy body. And I'm not telling you anything the CDC hasn't been screaming at the obstinate American public about for decades. I strongly oppose conventional medicine, but doctors are warranted in their repeated complaints about the unwillingness of patients to loose weight and get healthy.
Taking drugs is a quick fix that ignores both the root causes (physical and spiritual) and the unforeseen side effects down the road. Although I do understand that husbands who don't yet have control of their household may have an easier time getting her on board with a pill. It's still not a long term solution.
Oh, and man is the head of his house. He doesn't need a bible verse to justify wanting his wife to stay healthy and physically attractive. It is enough that it pleases him she does so. So too should he set a good example. It is no coincidence that many couples are very similar to each other with respect to how overweight they are. Just like the typical man wants a skinny tight wife so too does the typical wife a strong muscly man. Oh sure he'll say he finds you attractive as you are, and he does, but he'll find you much more attractive when you're in shape. Oh sure she may say she finds you attractive as you are. But she'll swoon so hard for you with muscles. Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you.
