The trick is how it applies when the 'Church' is at odds with the husband.
Whether that be because the issue relates to polygamy or to something else where the church historically believes but the husband holds a different view (say a guy who accepts alcohol but is in the Baptist denomination), the trick becomes, who do you go to?
This is something my wife and I have had to deal with lately.
Most of the friends and family and people we know are of the 'typical conservative' type. Which means any issue relating to sex, marital authority, or, God forbid, polygamy, automatically puts me at odds with them. When my wife feels we should do/not do one thing, and wants counsel and asks me to seek counsel, I don't feel I can go to 'the Church', because I already KNOW the church is wrong, and is just going to further contaminate my authority and try to turn my wife against me. Conversely, I have been trying to get her and I both into closer counsel with members of this board, for example, but the wife views us as 'fringe', so to speak, and it is (understandably) harder for her to trust the wisdom of someone she doesn't know as well. Which I completely sympathize with, but it's a catch 22.
Also, every person has their own spin. God does speak through others, yes, but relying on others to interpret what God has directed you to do is dangerous. Wise advice and counsel is one thing: asking someone to tell you what God wants you to do (not like they need asking most of the time
) is foolish. My experience in life is that 'Christians' are all too eager to tell you exactly what God wants for your life, from your birth to death and every detail in between. But they are not you. I'm not Jesus, but even Peter, one of His closest friends, contradicted what God had told Him to do at times.