When I was a youth I was asked to give a lesson to the church on a Wednesday night. I was kind of naive at the time and so gave a lesson on differences I saw between the church in scripture and our church (nothing to do with polygamy). It ended up causing a huge controversy and I recall at one point the pastor turning aside a couple of Sundays later and quietly saying to me that he totally agreed with me, but if he said so he would lose his job. I was shocked. It was a rude awakening to how the church really worked. I try not to be too hard on the church though, for fear the husband may take her side against me.