It not that hard.
Always ask yourself does your argument has some obvious holes in it. Then cover holes or find something better.
Being here doesn't mean you are swimming in shark-infested pool. Nobody will bite you.
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Always ask yourself does your argument has some obvious holes in it. Then cover holes or find something better.
Being here doesn't mean you are swimming in shark-infested pool. Nobody will bite you.
You must be natural then. If you're like me, once you feel flustered, your mind goes blank.
Even if I were to practice and become skilled at arguments, I'm not the sort of person who finds enjoyment in it. My sister loves debating, but I never have. It's a good skill to have but even if I did acquire it, I would have no desire to test it.
Too easy, not gonna say it
It more about saying what you truly think and being able to provide some reasoning behind.
A smidgen of advice if you ever have a need of taking it...
Try to not take it too seriously. I try to go full whimsical mode myself and imagine some of those I am debating like one of the zanier Max Fleischer cartoon characters angrily hammer away at a old manual typewriter with smoke coming out of their ears.
Probably just my on peculiar take on visualizing the audience in their underwear if you are nervous about public speaking
There in lies the difficulty about this modern world.
I don't enjoy it as such but I do see it as something of a responsibility. Sounds odd but I suspect that you are aware of that idea which posits that you don't change the culture via mass desire to change but to have a small Extremely loud minority pushing pushing pushing.
Well, most people have fairly high openness, agreeability and consciousness as well as being smart enough to say 'Hey. If this is what apparently everyone thinks, then if I want to fit in, I had better start believing it too. I don't want to be ostracized or be called the manipulation meanie word of the moment.'
So, I tend to argue a fair amount. Not for the benefit of either the gaslit or the gaslighters but for those who might see that whatever counterintuitive and clearly false narrative is being pushed, thst it is socially acceptable to just point and laugh and go about your business
This means you’re feminine, and not a highly disagreeable person. That is a beautiful thing and praiseworthy. Please don’t ever think you should change that about yourself.
I do believe that the christian culture which says that any disagreement is argument and sin, is wrong. There's no sin in disagreement and debate.
The culture that proclaims that declaring anything to be wrong is bigoted and judgemental, is evil. It's a device used to shut up people who would fight for that which is good.
If it's something seriously bad, like pornography or homosexuality, I will be vocal against it, but other than that I usually prefer not to take the spotlight.
Which is why the actual 'Hebraic mindset' focuses on "midrash," which is all about iron sharpening iron.
That's a blessing! From my perspective, it seems a lot better to worry about not having said enough than to admit you said too much...
Are you arguing with her about her reluctance to argue?
Are you arguing with her about why she doesn’t want to argue?
They have a resources page and Biblical families was the first one they mention. It took a while though before I actually decided to try joining the forum though
Resources
The Biblical Families website and polygamy discussion forum. I especially like the page that uses the Bible to answer Common Objections to Biblical Plural Marriage. The site’s About page sa…speakingofpolygamy.com
Very interesting. Thank you for sharing. I did not realize that they listed us as a resource.
Lol...have you met this forum?
It's more like:
"I don't enjoy confrontation and arguing, even more so with people who are good at it."
"This is how you argue."
"But I don't enjoy it."
"Here's how to make it a solid argument."
"..."
"I don't enjoy confrontation and arguing, even more so with people who are good at it."
"This is how you argue."
"But I don't enjoy it."
"Here's how to make it a solid argument."
"..."
Why any man would encourage a non-argumentative woman to be argumentative is beyond me. Just be yourself
Indeed! Don't change.
Proverbs 21:9 Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop,
Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
Proverbs 21:19 Better to dwell in the wilderness,
Than with a contentious and angry woman.
Oh I know, but thanks!Why any man would encourage a non-argumentative woman to be argumentative is beyond me. Just be yourself
Ah but everyone does love a good Lizzy Bennett or Jane Eyre. I just happen to be a little more like Catherine Morland
Would be less interested in argumentative myself. Vastly more about engaged and interested in participating in conversations and ideas...presuming that we are talking about within the context of wives.Oh I know, but thanks!
Ah but everyone does love a good Lizzy Bennett or Jane Eyre. I just happen to be a little more like Catherine Morland
I am smarter than the average bear but I have a real hankering for intelligent women...that is amazing on so many levels, not to mention just super attractive...and while I am as big as any guy on being head of the family, if a wife knows things or has ideas I dont...I damn well want to know.
I like being objectively correct and if that requires being corrected, then I can be right next time.
Not so much being challenged, more being shown evidence or shown a process or new factor.
Not saying the quiet and less engaged couldn't work but I do enjoy dialog not just my normal talkative monolog