You are flying Assumption Airlines, until you have actually had the talk.My pastor and I are close personal friends who have known each other for 20 years. He may not preach polygyny from the pulpit but he will listen and consider my views.
You are flying Assumption Airlines, until you have actually had the talk.My pastor and I are close personal friends who have known each other for 20 years. He may not preach polygyny from the pulpit but he will listen and consider my views.
He’s like one of my best friends. I know him extremely well. He was literally my next door neighbor for several years. I coached his kid in football. We hang out together at outings. I’ve had hundreds of one on one Bible conversations with him including other controversial topics. Replace the word “my pastor” with “my friend”.You are flying Assumption Airlines, until you have actually had the talk.
Currently I’m a small group (Sunday school) leader and I run the football program for the Christian school associated with the church and have been the children’s pastor in the past. Personally believe he’ll be ok with my view as long as I don’t rabidly start pushing it in small groups. I just got asked about multiple wives in class a few weeks ago and I kind of chickened out. I didn’t have time to get into it at the end of class so I basically punted on the topic until a later date. I did bring up wife submission in class and gave them a Bible answer last week though.That can be a dicey proposition though, especially if you are heavily involved in the church. You might be asked to step down from a position of leadership, if you directly bring up your position in a way that seems like you already know that it is not wrong.
Possibly I wasn’t crystal clear. I pursued her before marriage and do so to this day each and every day after 31 years of happy marriage.
Nothing. I just haven’t felt the need to up until this point. I will though.Then what is keeping you from talking to your friend?
No one here knows him like you do. I pray that you are correct about his loyalty and willingness to hear hard truths.He’s like one of my best friends. I know him extremely well. He was literally my next door neighbor for several years. I coached his kid in football. We hang out together at outings. I’ve had hundreds of one on one Bible conversations with him including other controversial topics. Replace the word “my pastor” with “my friend”.
Well, you may be riding for a fall by being positive about any pastor accepting this. We had a moderator here years ago who felt that way about his minister....a blood relative too as I recall. His story is here.My pastor and I are close personal friends who have known each other for 20 years. He may not preach polygyny from the pulpit but he will listen and consider my views.
Your friend that probably likes his social position and job.He’s like one of my best friends. I know him extremely well. He was literally my next door neighbor for several years. I coached his kid in football. We hang out together at outings. I’ve had hundreds of one on one Bible conversations with him including other controversial topics. Replace the word “my pastor” with “my friend”.
There’s a difference from accepting it to preaching it. Will he preach it from the pulpit? Probably not although he has gone against conventional teachings in the past. He also runs the risk of losing his job. Will he accept it in his private beliefs. Possibly so.Well, you may be riding for a fall by being positive about any pastor accepting this. We had a moderator here years ago who felt that way about his minister....a blood relative too as I recall. His story is here.
You accept a spiritual revelation that 95% of Christianity rejects/hates/fears, and you are this blasé about bringing it to your pastor?Nothing. I just haven’t felt the need to up until this point. I will though.
I’m prepared to get kicked out of church. I just don’t necessarily feel it will happen. If I show up with two wives I may quietly be asked to leave, however short of that I feel like I will be heard and listened to. Especially since I’ve personally known and am good friends with the entire church staff including the pastor and deacons. I’ve sat on every imaginable church board and have made decisions on behalf of the church. I was on the pulpit committee when we hired the current pastor. Maybe I’m wrong about all this. I guess we’ll see.@NBTX11, to be blunt, many of us have been kicked out of churches by church leaders whom we considered close personal friends until this issue arose. Many have been kicked out of churches just for thinking this is ok (myself included), without having any prospect in mind at all. Your situation gives far more reason for someone to reject you as you have approached someone, and that information is unlikely to stay confidential if this becomes messy. You are far too confident about this. Do not assume anything. Be prepared to be seriously disappointed. You should still discuss this with the pastor, but you need to be more realistic rather than imagining sunshine and butterflies.
If you haven't processed this possibility as a reality...I just don’t necessarily feel it will happen.
You are not really prepared.I’m prepared to get kicked out of church.
I’m prepared to get kicked out of church. I just don’t necessarily feel it will happen. If I show up with two wives I may quietly be asked to leave, however short of that I feel like I will be heard and listened to. Especially since I’ve personally known and am good friends with the entire church staff including the pastor and deacons. I’ve sat on every imaginable church board and have made decisions on behalf of the church. I was on the pulpit committee when we hired the current pastor. Maybe I’m wrong about all this. I guess we’ll see.
I was on the leadership committee of our local church, preaching every few weeks. I was raised in this church and had been associated with it on and off all my life. I knew every single person in leadership very well, and they had known me since I was a child. I had no prospects on the horizon and this was entirely a theoretical idea that I was quite happy to be told not to mention in church, and had been careful to rarely mention in church as it was. Nevertheless:I’m prepared to get kicked out of church. I just don’t necessarily feel it will happen. If I show up with two wives I may quietly be asked to leave, however short of that I feel like I will be heard and listened to. Especially since I’ve personally known and am good friends with the entire church staff including the pastor and deacons. I’ve sat on every imaginable church board and have made decisions on behalf of the church. I was on the pulpit committee when we hired the current pastor. Maybe I’m wrong about all this. I guess we’ll see.
Of course, you might be right. Stranger things have happened. But if I was a bookie I'd give 20:1 odds you're wrong.People tend to get irrational about poly. Brace yourself.
Woman talk. You should assume your potential has told everyone close to her.Yeah I’m actually going to reach out to her father once things die down. He’s more level headed and will probably listen to reason. Her sister found out and is probably spreading a bunch of bad comments about us though. Did not get kicked out of any churches. I actually don’t think I will. Current pastor values scripture and is open to reason.
But they are here.If a woman would first eliminate the bottom feeders that would be willing to take her body on trial, the job would be a lot easier.
Don't be suprised. It's custom on this forum for discussion to go sideway.Why thank you!