You're right. I doubt I would abandon this search at this point.Once you decide this sounds nice....letting the idea go just doesn't really happen.
You're right. I doubt I would abandon this search at this point.Once you decide this sounds nice....letting the idea go just doesn't really happen.
I don't see looking for another wife as any different from looking for a first wife. Make lots of female friends and build good biblically sound relationships. Be that guy women find attractive and want to be with. Be the guy women crave to have a relationship with and want to jump your bones. If it worked to secure the affections of one woman, why can't it work again (and again, and...) for another woman? Or am I missing something?You're right. I doubt I would abandon this search at this point.
The women may find me attractive, but every one of them thinks it's wrong.I don't see looking for another wife as any different from looking for a first wife. Make lots of female friends and build good biblically sound relationships. Be that guy women find attractive and want to be with. Be the guy women crave to have a relationship with and want to jump your bones. If it worked to secure the affections of one woman, why can't it work again (and again, and...) for another woman? Or am I missing something?
Today, women mostly offer their bodies on "trial" before asking for commintment.Your question assumes that they could find a good man that doesn’t have crazy (polygynous) ideas.
The point is that good men are like parking spaces, all the good ones are taken and all that is left are the Handicap ones.
(I know it isn’t universally true and it also applies to the other gender.)
If a woman wants a good guy, she’s probably going to have to share.
You aren't having right approach toward Red pill. It is foremost praxis which is similar to science. Both describe world-as-is, not what ougth to be done. Description of world itself is always value neutral, while knowledge usage isn't.This is a sticky and complicated issue.
You are partly right. In many ways attraction is more important to women than truth. This is probably magnified with polygyny.
The pickup/game/attraction/red pill community has given us a lot of useful information about male female relations and how to generate attraction. Much of this information is sadly not well understood (and is often wrongly suppressed) in Christian circles.
I read and/or listened to a bunch of stuff from those guys a few years back (RooshV, Heartiste, Rollo Tomassi, Kevin Samuels, Vox Day, Dalrock, etc.).
I learned a lot from them, but also believe that the servant of Jesus Christ must be very careful when utilizing their techniques.
Pickup artists look for casual sexual hookups while the man of God desires marriage.
If you were totally unattractive to your wife, you would be divorced man.Give me a break. I haven’t had to attract a woman in 31 years. I learned some lessons. Wasn’t successful. Oh well.
Seems they have started polygyny talk. That was good for you. Only issue would be moving fro. bad impressions of polygyny toward positive one. You definitly needed longer courtship.Exactly what happened. Her and her family are opposed based on decades of false teaching. In retrospect I should have taken much, much longer for this process, but I read her wrong. She had zero problems flirting with me but when I dropped truth bombs everything grounded to a halt. I went too fast. I ******* up.
Bolded is key issue. If woman doesn't see you available or able to keep you, she is drop you from her considered choices.Looking for a first wife was easy back then. I was available in her mind. That is the big key. Your advice about making friends and building sound relationships seems good though.
If a woman would first eliminate the bottom feeders that would be willing to take her body on trial, the job would be a lot easier.Today, women mostly offer their bodies on "trial" before asking for commitment………... Getting man whom she considers worthy to commit to her is tricky question for women.
I don't see looking for another wife as any different from looking for a first wife.
Give me a break. I haven’t had to attract a woman in 31 years.
I pay great attention to my wife @MsPurple1 Ask her. She is greatly attracted to me. You misapplied what I said. You have no idea how I treat my wife and you were presumptuous. She’s extremely well treated.This is a mistake. You have a wife who you should be attracting every single day. Pay more attention to your current wife and any potential plural will see how you will treat her too.
Hey! At least you didn't get kicked out of a church for making a move! </Looking in mirror> That is why I am trying the "Approach her father first" endeavor this time around.Give me a break. I haven’t had to attract a woman in 31 years. I learned some lessons. Wasn’t successful. Oh well.
Yeah I’m actually going to reach out to her father once things die down. He’s more level headed and will probably listen to reason. Her sister found out and is probably spreading a bunch of bad comments about us though. Did not get kicked out of any churches. I actually don’t think I will. Current pastor values scripture and is open to reason.Hey! At least you didn't get kicked out of a church for making a move! </Looking in mirror> That is why I am trying the "Approach her father first" endeavor this time around.
You might want to go down that road first.Current pastor values scripture and is open to reason
I think her comment was in direct response to his saying he hasn't had to attract a woman and wasn't presuming anything just making note that all men should be constantly trying to attract their wives.MeganC, my husband has always treated me with the utmost respect and love!! For you to assume that he treats me wrong is wrong in itself. He always goes out of his way to make sure I know he loves and respects me. Maybe you should’ve asked before making a huge assumption.
I was strictly talking about courtship for marriage NOT attraction or treatment of my wife after marriage.
Why thank you! I'll add on another hint that sometimes we forget to do. Make the woman laugh! For some reason, when a man makes a woman laugh a lot, it stirs up those happy feelings in her, and she naturally tends to fall in love with the man who is responsible for making her feel that way. It's weird, because it doesn't work that way with us guys, but a lot of that ability to be funny comes from confidence and from not getting your own emotions too tied up in the woman you are interested in. Of course we tend to get more nervous around the HV women whom we desire, so again, you might want to practice your humor on someone you are not so interested in, in order to build that level of confidence that you will need.Finally, somebody was written useful actionable advice. Well done ❤@Daniel DeLuca.
My pastor and I are close personal friends who have known each other for 20 years. He may not preach polygyny from the pulpit but he will listen and consider my views.You might want to go down that road first.
Even a pastor who values scripture may have a reaction if he thinks that you are acting in what he considers an underhanded manner on something that he hasn’t endorsed from the pulpit.
Possibly I wasn’t crystal clear. I pursued her before marriage and do so to this day each and every day after 31 years of happy marriage.To a plural these are not separate things.
That can be a dicey proposition though, especially if you are heavily involved in the church. You might be asked to step down from a position of leadership, if you directly bring up your position in a way that seems like you already know that it is not wrong.Current pastor values scripture and is open to reason.