Brothers, try to put yourself in the mindset of a woman who feels plain. Who doesn’t feel very attractive.
If she were to read your posts, which of you do you think that she would feel acceptable to? So many of the posts on this thread could be unnecessarily discouraging to her.
@steve, I concur with
@Cap's response to you, but I also see dangers in devoting too much energy in general to preventing certain individuals from feeling plain. What I've observed in life is that there is a rather large correlation between inner beauty and outer beauty; i.e., when one is beautiful on the inside (especially when one is appreciated for it), one's outer presence will increasingly reflect that inner beauty in the form of increased outer beauty. Cap described that above in a post about a woman serving five people at once.
Something has been missing in the life of a woman who feels plain. Probably the proper attention from her father growing up. Perhaps associating with people whose focus is on superficial beauty (which, in my humble opinion, is usually far from being
sustainably smoking hot). And very likely the absence of a significant other as an adult who has been willing to articulate how gorgeous she is in his eyes.
That is where the current responsibility lies for transforming the negative physical self-image of a woman: in the speaking and non-verbal behavior of her soul mate. Only when she is receptive to being convinced by such verbal and non-verbal behavior will she have the opportunity to heal. I truly believe that no amount of men-at-large refraining from indicating who they think is sexy will make up for a woman having ended up with a negative self-image -- so the end result would just be a combination of
other women hearing less about how hot they are and men in general suppressing their self-expression. We see that in the culture at large: young women reporting low physical self-esteem is at an all-time high in the face of everyone having become convinced that speaking about outward beauty is objectification. I'll never forget something a female friend of mine said back in the early 1980's in rejection of feminism: "If being told I'm sexy is objectification, I sure hope I never stop being a sex object!"
Yes, there are some women whom almost all men think are hot (and some men whom almost all women think are hot), but the vast majority of people are considered sexy not by
everyone but by far larger numbers of people of their sexual persuasion than they'll ever know.
No woman is considered plain by everyone. But if any individual woman who considers herself plain is pampered as if she's a snowflake by everyone tip-toeing around the subject of pulchritude, the most likely outcome is that she will
never experience the kind of man who thinks
she's smoking hot telling her so, because he will likely have been cowed into suppressing his freedom to say what's on his mind in that regard out of not wanting to offend some completely other set of women than the one whom he thinks is hot but who thinks herself to be plain.
Regardless of the differences, it's a good topic and has certainly been entertaining. 
