What gets me is some men are so easily led.
-She set the rule -date me on my terms. At what point will she submit to him? Now he’s a ‘Good boy’ and he’s brought into submission to the preacher, her daddy and herself.
So she still came out with the ‘submitted man’ she was already avoiding at church, or were the men there avoiding her type? (Not all women are like this!!!!)
He’ll have to fight a battle for headship to be a man over his own house, if that girl has the lead to long or intends to keep the leadership role.
Some girls like to play games and see how far they can get the man to bend to her terms. Some see what that man is like and thinks, if he’s now a Christian I can marry him and be right with the Church. I can change him after we get married. Society has taught girls that the men should conform to the woman’s image. (It’s not just women teaching their girls this, it’s some men’s actions that prove they can be led). It’s backwards, we are to conform into the image of Christ, so IMO it applies to marriage. (Women) Conform to the lifestyle of the man you submit your life to. If he’s an outdoorsman, cheer him on, butcher the animals at his side, go hunt with him. If he’s a gamer- do gaming stuff, a farmer... the idea that a woman can marry and change the man, may be feminist but it began in the garden, it’s not a new thing.. She led, he followed.
I think it’s a game for some of these types of women on dating sites. They have the thrill of leading a man or family on because they know some men are desperate to have that trophy badge of being a man of many wives. Some men are desperate to have a good woman because the one they now have aren’t doing it for them. Then you have the men that sincerely want to add to his family, need/want another helpmeet. He has a good wife, he wants to give another good woman a family to be fulfilled in and help fulfill his vision , the Lord has given that man.
We’re not taught the woman was made for the man, just that a man needs a woman. This has contributed to turning society and homes on it’s head. Men are desperate and women know she’s got what he needs....this may also contribute to the negativity for polygyny. ‘Men control yourself, one woman should do.’
I guess that’s my frustration I see with mono/poly dating sites. There are some people seeking dates because they’re desperate, bored or lonely. Some don’t realize there are men that are seeking a woman they can lead and love or a woman seeking a man she will obey and submit too. It’s about feel goods and good looks not equally-yoked, common threads, understanding ones role in marriage, and quality/character of that person or that family.
I do believe there are some good hearted women on these sites, seeking to add to a man’s home, to be a godly helpmeet. It’s likely they get snatched up pretty quick.
That being said I know about three monogamous couples who met their mate on an online dating network and have married and are doing well. I’m not sure how many people they had to filter through before ‘the one’.
